I'm so sorry ladies. I did not think about my wording.

OCIrishBruin

And I'm a total idiot.

Seriously.  I totally understand if you hate me now.

 

I meant my comment to be from the POV of the medical establishment.  Obviously, I think every baby is worthy of saving (and should be viewed that way by all people).  My comment was directed at what I perceive to be the reality of how doctors would view the situation. 

I'm sooooooooooooooooooooooooo  sorry.  I honestly feel absolutely terrible.  I love you guys, really and truly, and didn't mean to be the total b*tch I was.

 

Scout05

Oh love, of course we don't hate you.

We all word things wrong sometimes.

 

CarrieLeigh84

Well, feel free to celebrate your worthiness tomorrow, when you're 24 weeks.

Pixiestx

I didn't think you meant anything other than that's how doctors see the situation when I read it. 

pepomntpat

CarrieLeigh84:

Well, feel free to celebrate your worthiness tomorrow, when you're 24 weeks.

Nice.

CarrieLeigh84

pepomntpat:

CarrieLeigh84:

Well, feel free to celebrate your worthiness tomorrow, when you're 24 weeks.

Nice.

Don't side eye me. Seriously. Don't get me started.

OCIrishBruin

CarrieLeigh84:

Well, feel free to celebrate your worthiness tomorrow, when you're 24 weeks.

I really am sorry Carrie, truly.  I completely acknowledge that my comment was careless.  But it was not ill intentioned.  Sending an apology hug your way without any expectation of getting one back.

CarrieLeigh84

CarrieLeigh84:

pepomntpat:

CarrieLeigh84:

Well, feel free to celebrate your worthiness tomorrow, when you're 24 weeks.

Nice.

Don't side eye me. Seriously. Don't get me started.

Nope. Can't hold it in.

PepomntPat - you know what? Shove it.

You don't think this is a touchy subject for me? Every god damn day I live with the guilt that if I could have held on for ONE  more day, I could very well have taken a baby home from the hospital. EVERY fvcking day I deal with that. So you know what, when a comment is brought up and worded poorly (and yes, OC, I understand it was worded poorly, and it really did  rub me the wrong way) about this subject, I get a little touchy.

Am I overly sensitive about this? Yes. Does it hurt like hell 2 years later? Yes. The LAST thing on this fvcking earth I need is YOUR condescending comments. Got it?

 

 

pepomntpat

CarrieLeigh84:

CarrieLeigh84:

pepomntpat:

CarrieLeigh84:

Well, feel free to celebrate your worthiness tomorrow, when you're 24 weeks.

Nice.

Don't side eye me. Seriously. Don't get me started.

Nope. Can't hold it in.

PepomntPat - you know what? Shove it.

You don't think this is a touchy subject for me? Every god damn day I live with the guilt that if I could have held on for ONE  more day, I could very well have taken a baby home from the hospital. EVERY fvcking day I deal with that. So you know what, when a comment is brought up and worded poorly (and yes, OC, I understand it was worded poorly, and it really did  rub me the wrong way) about this subject, I get a little touchy.

Am I overly sensitive about this? Yes. Does it hurt like hell 2 years later? Yes. The LAST thing on this fvcking earth I need is YOUR condescending comments. Got it?

 

 

I gotcha. Frankly your original upset was completely understandable. It was a crappy thing to say. I just didn't like the snark to her very sincere apology. 

AppleRidge

OC, I read it the way it was intended (though I see how it could have been taken the wrong way given that you're at v-day). 

Pepomnt, I tend to feel like you only pop up over here to get involved in drama. 

CarrieLeigh84

pepomntpat:

CarrieLeigh84:

CarrieLeigh84:

pepomntpat:

CarrieLeigh84:

Well, feel free to celebrate your worthiness tomorrow, when you're 24 weeks.

Nice.

Don't side eye me. Seriously. Don't get me started.

Nope. Can't hold it in.

PepomntPat - you know what? Shove it.

You don't think this is a touchy subject for me? Every god damn day I live with the guilt that if I could have held on for ONE  more day, I could very well have taken a baby home from the hospital. EVERY fvcking day I deal with that. So you know what, when a comment is brought up and worded poorly (and yes, OC, I understand it was worded poorly, and it really did  rub me the wrong way) about this subject, I get a little touchy.

Am I overly sensitive about this? Yes. Does it hurt like hell 2 years later? Yes. The LAST thing on this fvcking earth I need is YOUR condescending comments. Got it?

 

 

I gotcha. Frankly your original upset was completely understandable. It was a crappy thing to say. I just didn't like the snark to her very sincere apology. 

Well next time someone (even unintentionally) drives a stake through your heart, I'll be anxiously awaiting your sunshine and lollipops response. 

CarrieLeigh84

BBHME:

OC, I read it the way it was intended (though I see how it could have been taken the wrong way given that you're at v-day). 

Pepomnt, I tend to feel like you only pop up over here to get involved in drama. 

Ding! We have a winner.

ColindaP

pepomntpat:

I gotcha. Frankly your original upset was completely understandable. It was a crappy thing to say. I just didn't like the snark to her very sincere apology. 

Quoth the nice police. Jesus.

OC, for real though, thank you for offering a mature and unconditional apology.

CarrieLeigh84

ColindaP:

pepomntpat:

I gotcha. Frankly your original upset was completely understandable. It was a crappy thing to say. I just didn't like the snark to her very sincere apology. 

Quoth the nice police. Jesus.

OC, for real though, thank you for offering a mature and unconditional apology.

This. Sorry I didn't acknowledge it sooner. I got a little distracted by "other" matters.

OCIrishBruin

CarrieLeigh84:

ColindaP:

pepomntpat:

I gotcha. Frankly your original upset was completely understandable. It was a crappy thing to say. I just didn't like the snark to her very sincere apology. 

Quoth the nice police. Jesus.

OC, for real though, thank you for offering a mature and unconditional apology.

This. Sorry I didn't acknowledge it sooner. I got a little distracted by "other" matters.

(((hugs)))

I when I see any of you get hurt.  I am truly sorry that I made things worse. 

CarrieLeigh84

OCIrishBruin:

CarrieLeigh84:

ColindaP:

pepomntpat:

I gotcha. Frankly your original upset was completely understandable. It was a crappy thing to say. I just didn't like the snark to her very sincere apology. 

Quoth the nice police. Jesus.

OC, for real though, thank you for offering a mature and unconditional apology.

This. Sorry I didn't acknowledge it sooner. I got a little distracted by "other" matters.

(((hugs)))

I when I see any of you get hurt.  I am truly sorry that I made things worse. 

Your apology actually made things better. I appreciate it. Like I said, it's a REALLY touchy subject for me. I sat in L&D begging for 4 hours for them to do something. It got to the point where they had a neonatal specialist come and tell me that there was no hope, and then proceeded to lecture me about survival rates. 

grr_aargh

Rock on, OC.  We all say stupid stuff.  I can only hope when I put my foot in my mouth someone else has the good grace to tell me to take it out.

Carrieleigh:  Giant hugs. 

pepomntpat

BBHME:

OC, I read it the way it was intended (though I see how it could have been taken the wrong way given that you're at v-day). 

Pepomnt, I tend to feel like you only pop up over here to get involved in drama. 

I am sorry you and others feel that way. I post here just about daily-whenever I get on the bump- to offer what support I can. I have been involved in exactly two dramatic events over the last six months-this one included. I am sorry that is all that is remembered. 

EntropicEpona

HUGE hugs to you, Carrie.

And kudos to you, OC, for making such a sincere, elegant apology. It's not very often you see that.

suntoto

pepomntpat:

CarrieLeigh84:

CarrieLeigh84:

pepomntpat:

CarrieLeigh84:

Well, feel free to celebrate your worthiness tomorrow, when you're 24 weeks.

Nice.

Don't side eye me. Seriously. Don't get me started.

Nope. Can't hold it in.

PepomntPat - you know what? Shove it.

You don't think this is a touchy subject for me? Every god damn day I live with the guilt that if I could have held on for ONE  more day, I could very well have taken a baby home from the hospital. EVERY fvcking day I deal with that. So you know what, when a comment is brought up and worded poorly (and yes, OC, I understand it was worded poorly, and it really did  rub me the wrong way) about this subject, I get a little touchy.

Am I overly sensitive about this? Yes. Does it hurt like hell 2 years later? Yes. The LAST thing on this fvcking earth I need is YOUR condescending comments. Got it?

 

 

I gotcha. Frankly your original upset was completely understandable. It was a crappy thing to say. I just didn't like the snark to her very sincere apology. 

pepomntpat, OMG.  How could you?  How could you invade this board and be so insensitive and then butt in on something that did not include you, yet you want to be in the middle of? Seriously!  Your responses are so wrong and so offensive on so many levels.  It is one thing to come here and be supportive of us and yet another entirely to kick someone when they are in obvious pain.    So what if you do not like snark, but know that snark is OUR way of dealing with our hurt and pain, so don't go knocking our coping devices.  I am so angry at you and your responses to Carrie right now, that I am seeing RED.  This did not concern you and you just made it worse for Carrie.  Go back to your own board and please stay there as you obviously do more harm than good here.

ETA:  OC, I am sure Carrie appreciates your honest apology.  

writergirl5786

Thanks for the sweet apology oc ((hugs)) I certainly don't hate you ((Huge Hugs)) Carrie.

triple_sevens

OC, thanks for coming here to apologize for what was essentially just carelessness. You're a kind person and I know we all wish you well.

Carrie, big ((hugs)) to you.

rjl07

Thanks OC.  I don't hate you at all.  I understood what you meant and I know you didn't mean to hurt anyone.  Thanks for the apology.

3ltlones

thank you for the apology OC.

Huge hugs to you Carrie. 

Scout05

OC - I hope the important part that we all appreciate and accept your apology, and realize you didn't intend harm, is clear here.

And honestly, in a post like this, I don't think it's appropriate to come over and call out someone who was making their offense and pain known. Carrie and OC would have worked it out on their own, they're big girls.

 

Court1

Of course we don't hate you.  But I fully understand how this tears Carrie up on many, many levels.  I know you didn't have any ill-intentions & many us still think of you as a part of our little "family".

Carrie: we love ya babe.  Big hugs