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I hate being pessimistic, but want

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to shake newly pg people for their naivete sometimes.

I heard last night (through a different neighbor) that my neighbor is pregnant. like 2 minutes pregnant (well, more like 6 or 7 weeks). This is the neighbor that cornered me at the 'hood holiday party and was all ttc-lingo. I haven't kept up with her as much as I should have, but I know that in April or so she had a CP. 

so you have had a loss, and now you're announcing to the neighborhood you're 6 or 7 weeks pregnant? I know how excited she is, and she's been trying for a long time - and I surely hope this works out -- but I am so leery of early announcements.

 

okay, bitter betty, signing off.

m/c#1 07/16/08 (11 weeks), m/c#2 10/10/08 (8 weeks). and then nothing since except every test possible (no answers). IUI#1 and #2: BFNs Super lucky to be buddies with Peetie. Our out of nowhere, surprise DD born 5/29/2011
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  • Scout05Scout05 member
    I'm with you. It's one thing to tell family, but to be telling neighbors? Really?
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  • schen0510schen0510
    I am torn about this whole thing now.  After losing the twins at 19 weeks and everyone and their mother obviously knowing I was pg...I wonder if it matters anymore.  I think that no matter what anything could happen...again the harsh reality of going through what many of us has...so why wait.  I mean...I don't think I would announce to my entire neighborhood that I was pg but my friends will know and probably my siblings.
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  • sakurasakura
    I probably wouldn't announce it to the neighbors, but I am leery of early announcements as well.  We've always told family and close friends.  BUT with the MC and difficulty TTC, DH and I are at a point where we may not tell anyone!
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  • DoingItRightDoingItRight member
    I just wish that we could all be naive again!!!
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  • KristysRedBarnKristysRedBarn
    I'm so leery whenever I hear someone make an early announcement.  I suppose I'm just bitter and pessimistic too.  Strange thing is that it always works out for them.  We waited until 14 weeks and it didn't work out for us. 
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  • SonadoraSonadora member

    Even when I was "naive" I still didn't tell anyone other than our parents that I was pg...when I had my m/c they were the only ones that even knew I was pg to begin with.

    This time we didn't even tell parents (except my mom since H couldn't come with me to the u/s) until after we had an u/s with a heartbeat. And no one else until after 12 weeks.

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  • johannaknipjohannaknip
    I'm telling family after this weeks appointment. We'll tell a few friends after the NT scan. After that, I have no plans to tell anyone. To me, the un-telling (is that even a word??) is much worse than the joy you get from telling.
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  • dondraandluisdondraandluis member
    I totally agree. It annoys me when people do that.
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  • Court1Court1

    imageschen0510:
    I am torn about this whole thing now.  After losing the twins at 19 weeks and everyone and their mother obviously knowing I was pg...I wonder if it matters anymore.  I think that no matter what anything could happen...again the harsh reality of going through what many of us has...so why wait.  I mean...I don't think I would announce to my entire neighborhood that I was pg but my friends will know and probably my siblings.

    We also had a later loss & I agree with most of this.  Besides, everyone & their mom know we're ttc & I suck at lying if someone asks.

    Connor Thomas 6/6/08. Discovered missed miscarriage at 17 wks 3 days, D&C 11/25/09. Please, please, please - BFP 5/21/11, EDD 2/1/11. Beta@12DPO=52, Beta@14DPO=158. U/S 7/7/11 shows strong baby measuring a couple days ahead!!! Pregnancy Ticker
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  • writergirl5786writergirl5786 member

    i am right with you. i think that's nuts.

    a friend of mine announced that they were pg on FB and they were barely 6 weeks or so. stinging part was, we literally found out within days of each other but i sure as heck was not about to say anything to anyone. and here they were announcing it on fb!

     so now it sucks even more b/c i get to watch her week by week progress and know it should be me. oh and fun times, they're getting their first u/s today. ugh. stupid FHs

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