They shared their pg with me, but no invite to showers??

sunshinenva

I am a little shocked, but by no means disappointed.  Five women in my life are pg and all due in the next 30-45 days.  All of them have shared their pg stories/worries and endless u/s pics with me.  One of them even suggested I throw her a shower.  1 of the 5 actually invited me to her Shower, but the others never invited me.

If you were in my shoes and I am sure some of you have....for the 4 others that never invited you to the shower would you still buy a gift?  I am getting them cards, but now have second thoughts on giving a gift.  WWYD?

Brady1*

What is your relationship with them? Are you friends, family, co-workers? It all depends. If you're co-workers and socialize outside of work I'd say you should have been invited. Either way it's crappy and I'd be hurt too. (((HUGS)) 

lindsay.lou

I would not get them a gift or a even a card if I wasn't invited to the shower.

 

michrocc

I *might* give a card, depending upon how well I knew this person.  Then again, if you knew them enough for them to have shared stories and u/s pics with you, and for you to wonder whether or not a gift or a card is appropriate, you should really have been invited to the shower.

I mean, gah, I thought, like, everyone went to these things.  I can remember being 11 and being forced to go to my mom's office assistant's cousin's sister's shower because I had a vag and, apparently, that's all it takes. 

I'm so sorry. I think it's sh!itty.  I definitely would NOT give a gift. 

butterfly843

I would probably not get them a gift. If they shared everything else with you, but didn't bother to invite you to the shower why bother giving them a gift.

KristysRedBarn

I wouldn't give a gift.  I probably wouldn't even give a card. 

dondraandluis

I would not get them a gift and probably not even a card, especially if they are people you are close with.

lindsay.lou

I mean.....if you really feel as though you're close enough to them to give them a card or gift....then you're close enough that they should've invited you to the shower. Kwim?

sunshinenva

Thanks for your advice on this.  I do know all of them in and out of work.  We don't really talk too much at work, but in the past we definitely enjoyed Girls Night Out.  Now since they became pg only two of them went to the Girls Night out.

I was totally looking at their registries and figuring out what to buy until I learned through a mutual friend she was going to the Shower and shocked to learn I was not invited.  She told me perhaps they did not invite me out of consideration because everyone knows we are TTC.  That theory doesn't stick because they have shared their pg experiences the last 7-8 months.

 I will probably get them cards, but not gifts.  I feel better about my decision after talking to you guys.