Shower vent . . . again

sinisterkat01

Okay, my first post was DD'd because I was thinking that it sounded snotty, and that I didn't get my point across well.  But regardless of that, I am still just really stressed out about my sister and my mom putting on this shower.  I agreed to it, because my mom swore to me that my sister was "excited" about it, but I never really got to ask her is she was okay with it, and I have my doubts.  There are already weird tensions between my sister and my mom, and they seem to be getting slightly worse.  I just can't go between them all of the time, and especially during this shower, and try to keep everyone happy.  Or try to keep my sister from getting her feelings hurt if my mom lashes out  . . . . etc, etc, etc.

It's a really confusing situation, and too late to get into all of it, but I could go without the stress.  As I said before, really wishing that I just said that I didn't want a shower.  

The presents will be nice, don't get me wrong, but not worth this emotional turmoil.  I also think that if they are doing it - it would be nice of them to think of what I would want.  That is what I have always done for my sister

erpetdoc

Sorry to hear that you are finding more stress than not in terms of your shower. I hope you are able to sit back and relax when the day actually gets here and that the drama stays under the radar.

mchell9

I would just try to not worry about it.  In the end you have no control over what either of them are going to do or how they are going to behave towards each other so just try to focus on your own happy moment.  Sorry you have to deal with this...

vlewis515

I would say if they start in on each other and put you in the middle, remind them that they are there for your shower and you are not getting involved in their fight. It's beyond rude and immature for them to try to drag you in the middle of their crap when you should be having no stress right now!

mamaholic

I read your post last night before you DD'd it. FWIW I don't think it came across as "snotty" (as you put it).

It's understandable to be frustrated with this situation. Your shower should be a day you feel loved, not one you should stress about whether or not your mom and sister are getting along, etc.

I hope they get it together and you're able to enjoy your day.

(((hugs)))