Thank you notes...

E&RMommy

Why is it that the woman is always delegated thank you notes??  It's not even a concern to most men.  Seriously it's annoying.  DH "hates his handwriting" and "would take too long".  Bah hum bug.  I have plenty of time sitting here on bedrest....but geez....boys are lazy and have lame excuses. 

OCIrishBruin

ping1080

HA! The thought of DH doing this project makes me laugh! Never would he ever do this! Similarly though, he also wouldn't notice if someone didn't send him thank you card. It's just not on his radar. I hear you...I've been writing mine out & I'm almost done!

rabstbmom

What bugs me is that I feel like there's a double standard. At least that's how I felt with our wedding gift thank you's. My DH would have probably done some of them, especially for members of his family I didn't really know yet. But I felt like I'd be judged as some good-for-nothin' wife who pawned them off on her husband because she was too lazy to do them herself. DH did write one back to a friend of his from grad school who sent us a gift card but whom I've never met yet. But the rest of them, I  was like, "Oh heck no. I better be the one to do them, or I'll never hear the end of it." Maybe I don't give his family enough credit, but I wasn't willing to take that chance!

jesmckenna

Oh, not in this house!  For our wedding, DH wrote them out to his family.  If he didn't do them, they didn't get sent.  I HATE writing out thank you's, because I'm always worried they sound cheesy or impersonal, so it's definitely a task I make sure we share.

hopingwaiting

jesmckenna:

Oh, not in this house!  For our wedding, DH wrote them out to his family.  If he didn't do them, they didn't get sent.  I HATE writing out thank you's, because I'm always worried they sound cheesy or impersonal, so it's definitely a task I make sure we share.

This.  I totally put DH in charge of his side of the family's thank yous and same will go for any baby gifts.  Besides, it's kind of cute to see him try to write legibly and in straight lines.

Sonadora

Our rule is if it came from your family or friends you get to write it.

While his pile was much smaller than mine, he did write every single wedding TY note for items that came from his family/friends.

JenPVH

My DH is better at TY notes than me.   He also gets them done a lot sooner than I do.  I am a little ashamed to admit this.

erpetdoc

It's lame that he can't help (my DH won't either), but really....in the case of baby....he wasn't the one the shower was given for, so I see his point.  Now, with wedding thank-yous, I made him help.  The gifts were given to us both in that case.

ShellShockedMama

I'll be straight up. My DH is a dork and thinks a verbal thank you is more than sufficient b/c that's how he was raised.

Um, no. That makes you a gift douche and why *I* always send TY cards. He does appreciate the gifts, to give him some credit.

hutch0830

Agreed! DH was in charge of his half from the wedding, but after a certain point he stopped. I'd rather just do them then seem rude for not sending them out. But boy was I mad!!!

lovethebosox

I have to say, DH is fantastic about writing thank you notes, and was long before I came along. I feel very lucky!