Please tell me the constant guilt goes away!

naturelle25

No matter what I do I feel guilty. If Im with Lilly, I feel like Owen isnt being held enough and if Im with Owen, I feel like I am neglecting Lilly. Maybe I still have crazy hormones but this sucks:(

ash2

Im 3 months in and still feeling it. It's much better than it was at the beginning, but I still feel like I can't give enough attention to both kids. I'm sure they're fine, it's just US feeling the guilt!

Roco&Leche

the guilt goes away when they start playing together, smiling at each other and overall acting like siblings.  My DD loves her little brother.  She always calls me when he is crying, makes sure I have milk and snacks for both of them...she waits for him to follow her and never wants to leave the house without him.

Give it time. A sibling is honestly the best gift a child could have. 

 

lovemytwoboys

Honestly, I don't think it ever completely goes away. DS2 just turned 14 months, and I still struggle with this daily. The struggle was definitely harder in the beginning though when DS2 was an infant and I worried about not holding him as much and reflecting on how differently his infancy was than when DS1 was an infant (and only child).

I will say that it has gotten much easier since we can all play together now. For example, we sat down and all played trucks this morning and then moved onto blocks. It's nice when they are interested in the same things and  you can spend your time playing with both of them together. 

katydid2007

It's gotten better for me but hasn't gone away yet. I'm lucky that my oldest is completely in love with the baby (so he doesn't show jealousy when I hold him) but it is hard at times.  My most difficult moments are when both are crying for me to hold them.. that's tough.  I'm often seen carrying a baby on each hip. The good news - my arm muscles are getting really toned. 

CaitlinJ22

for me it was worse the first few wks bc of hormones. I feel guilty at times, but not as bad as I did. Hang in there!