I know having 2 kids will be a challenge but

sunnyday16

we're getting sick of friends and family telling us how horrible it will be! Of course it will be difficult at times but I honestly think it was a bigger adustment to go from no kids to one than one to two. It can't be that awful if people go onto have more kids after two. DH comes from a family of 5 and is use to the chaos. I also hate when people like DH's brother tell us how awful it will be and of course he would say that because their 2 kids are disrecpectful, rude, horribly behaved and basically do whatever they want! Ok vent over.

KslCpa

I agree, people shouldn't be telling you how horrible it will be, but lemme tell ya, 1-2 was waaaaayyyy harder an adjustment than 0-1.  Way way way way harder.

 

LilCMom

I get so sick of this too. When I tell people my kids will be 15 months apart the reaction I always get is OMG I feel so sorry for you. I am nervous about it, but thank God I have a wonderful DH and family nearby!!

CHI-06

that used to drive me crazy too!  I love having 2under 2 not everyone feels the same way... yes it was a hard adjustment and took some getting used to but now that we have more of a routine down we have so much fun and I love love love it!  When the same people that used to say those things ask me how its going I smile and tell them how happy we are!

lala30

I got that alot b/c my girls are so close in age.  it was def. harder going from one to two, but now i can't even remember not having both of them.  someone on here once gave a line i always use in these cases.  " Better to have my hands full, then empty, right?"  i then get," that's such a great way to look at it, your right."  i give them the half smile and go on my way.  people are weird!! 

hellopoppyseed

I don't like these comments either. They are such a drag. But the other day on an elevator, I met this lady who was probably 68 or so and she asked how close they would be and I told her a year and she says hers were like that too and it's no big deal. She said you are already at home tending to one's every need and you are already busy so it's just not a big deal. That was nice to hear and I am going to try and adopt her attitude. She was probably the most positive, calm person I've talked to on the topic.

Notwifezilla7

I tell people that while it's hard, it's been the best gift I've ever given my older daughter. That usual shuts people up.

MamaKAT82

i have 3 under 2 and people act like i have a terminal illness and even though my twins are only a week and a half old, it hasn't been as bad as what some folks would think...I was pretty scared it would be absolute chaos from stories and comments people made...I wouldn't change a thing

shopgirl78

Honestly, I find two toddlers easier than one in that they entertain each other, leaving mom more time for other things.  I thought the transition from 1-2 was easy peasy.  However 3....is insane.  

violets_are_blue

sunnyday16:

we're getting sick of friends and family telling us how horrible it will be! Of course it will be difficult at times but I honestly think it was a bigger adustment to go from no kids to one than one to two. It can't be that awful if people go onto have more kids after two. DH comes from a family of 5 and is use to the chaos. I also hate when people like DH's brother tell us how awful it will be and of course he would say that because their 2 kids are disrecpectful, rude, horribly behaved and basically do whatever they want! Ok vent over.

I have found this to be the case so far.

Just do what you can to make things easier on yourselves now. Get your toddler into a good routine, make sure he/she naps well, make the transition to a toddler bed, ect. It is tough at times, but definitely doable. GL!

MBJazzhands5

I'm not really active here, but my LOs are going to be 1 (as of next saturday) and 2 (as of yesterday) so 12 months and 5 days apart. It drove me batty when people told me I was "in for it" or thought I was crazy when I was pregnant with #2. I finally started saying, "oh, we'lll handle it. We have to!" That kept them quiet.

Now, having been through the first year, I can honestly say that having two is waaaaaaay easier than I ever thought it would be! Yes, there are some challenges, but I have a nephew the same age  as my older one and I see my SIL and her husband just as stressed with their one as we are with two.

After bringing home #2 and adjusting while on maternity leave, I tried to quantify the difference between one and two babies, and I really think that (for me) having two was about 10% more work than having just 1. I did everything the same for my first, but now I was just holding a baby while I was doing it. 

Yes, there are some challenges, but there's always challenges in parenting, whether your little ones are 9 months apart or 9 years apart. 

When people talk to me about my kids they say, "you must be busy" and, maybe I'm delusional, but I don't think I'm THAT busy compared to just having one! SO, from someone with a tiny bit of experience, I just wanted to chime in and say that having 2 under 2 is far easier and more enjoyable than I ever thought it would be.

CaitlinJ22

KslCpa:

I agree, people shouldn't be telling you how horrible it will be, but lemme tell ya, 1-2 was waaaaayyyy harder an adjustment than 0-1.  Way way way way harder.

 

 i know my DD Is young, but I think going from 0-1 was WAY harder, than 1-2. Maybe bc DD is easier and DS was a high maintenance newborn. BFing was hard for me for 2.5 months and I had some baby blues. My delivery and recovery was harder with DS too. This time it has been MUCH easier to have a newborn, its trying to deal with little sleep and a toddler that is hard. I even did the last 3 wks alone without DH and no family here, and it was fine. 

OP-Dont let people freak you out. you'll do great.