i *think* we have narrowed it down to...

ebeemcg

boy: Torin James (James after my uncle who passed when I was 10)

girl: Cadence Rian (Rian after DH's brother who passed before we met)

what do you think?! 

strangebird

Did your husband's brother spell Ryan "Rian?" Other than this misspelling, the names are nice. I don't like Torin, but I've seen worse. I can't, however, enjoy the name Rian, especially if, as I suspect, you've changed the spelling just to feminize it.

buckeyebrat

I have Rian on my list for girl names. Cute!

ebeemcg

strangebird:

Did your husband's brother spell Ryan "Rian?" Other than this misspelling, the names are nice. I don't like Torin, but I've seen worse. I can't, however, enjoy the name Rian, especially if, as I suspect, you've changed the spelling just to feminize it.

no, he spelled his name "ryan" but I love the name Rian for a girl. 

lovemytwoboys

Honestly, I really don't like either one at all. Sorry, just nms.

HappyMrsK

NMS, but congrats on choosing. Ryan spelled Rian makes me think you meant to write Rain but mispelled it.

starsmaycollide

I like the middle names a lot more than the first names.

And just throwing this out there-a family friend named his daughter Ryann.

I think maybe partly what may bother people about Rian is that it looks like Rain. 

CrazyToast

mj.reilly:

This:

lovemytwoboys:

Honestly, I really don't like either one at all. Sorry, just nms.

... and this:

HappyMrsK:

NMS, but congrats on choosing. Ryan spelled Rian makes me think you meant to write Rain but mispelled it.

Agreed.

{lovebird}

i've known two grown women with the name Ryan, spelled Ryan.  IMO, you don't need to change the spelling to feminize it.  I agree that it just looks like a misspelling.

cozylittlecave

HappyMrsK:

NMS, but congrats on choosing. Ryan spelled Rian makes me think you meant to write Rain but mispelled it.

I actually thought that at first... but it's a middle name. People won't see/say it often, so if you like it, go for it.

I like both first names- nms, but not bad!  

kle+spd

I think Cadence Ryan would be so cute!

Don't change the spelling especially if it's to honor someone! 

gibs

Torin is awful.

Rian is bad but at least it's a middle name.

Cadence is NMS. 

macchiatto

lovemytwoboys:

Honestly, I really don't like either one at all. Sorry, just nms.

This.

And I have to agree that Rian really looks like a typo for rain.

KrispiKreme

I love Cadence Rian. I never would have considered Rian for a girl but it's totally gorgeous in combination. I like James but Torin makes me think of Torrid (clothing shop) so it's a bit strange to me.

mcmann05

I don't know how I feel about Torin but Torin James does flow well.

Love Cadence! A friends little girl's mn is Ryan. DH has a friend that spells it Ryen.

LPace84

HappyMrsK:

NMS, but congrats on choosing. Ryan spelled Rian makes me think you meant to write Rain but mispelled it.

I like your names, but I agree with this pp.

JayKay2387

Sorry, nms at all.

braveangel2

Cadence Rian - I saw Cadence Rain...like the rhythm of rain. It looks misspelled.

I would either use Cadence Ryan like your brother's name or Rhian, the legitimate Welsh female name that means Maiden.

https://www.behindthename.com/name/rhian

katekat8721

mj.reilly:

This:

lovemytwoboys:

Honestly, I really don't like either one at all. Sorry, just nms.

... and this:

HappyMrsK:

NMS, but congrats on choosing. Ryan spelled Rian makes me think you meant to write Rain but mispelled it.

 

 

jessie395

I love Cadence, but that's my nieces name so I may be a little biased