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emilykristene2006

Justin had his 2 year well today. They want him to see a behavioral specialist. I'm curious, has B's behavior changed much since he is getting more words?

Justin has lots of words, he just screams them at the top of his lungs until you give him what he is asking for. He also loves time-out. He will walk up and hit Emily, just to go to time-out. He walks over by himself, sits down and "pretend" cries. 

Today was DH's first day back at work from vacation. The kids were pretty bad with him home all week. The whining started this morning and I held my hands up and said, "Okay guys, vacation's over, Mom is back and the whining will stop." They both immediately stopped. 

 

KoriBrett

Bryan is 49328492374 percent better now that he can tell us what's going on. ?It's insane. ?He's like a different kid. ?I mean, he still is a total wrecking ball of a child and throws screaming hissy fits - but we can talk to him, reason with him, etc. ?

Sounds like you and your DH need to be a united front of Don'tFockWithUs to the kid. ?I mean, if they both listen to you almost instantly, but not to him? ?That's simply a matter of making sure you guys both agree on and stick to your punishments when he acts like a turd, kwim?

It also sounds like you need to find something other than a timeout. ?Do you make him apologize to Emily after he hits her? ?We do a lot of that - confronting the person they just thwacked seems to work fairly well. ?But you have to do it RIGHT THEN or it's too late. ?And if they don't apologize, we either do a timeout until they say sorry, or take something away for a few hours or the rest of the day.

I don't know, 2 year olds are just.... GAH

emilykristene2006

I told DH tonight that a whole lot is going to change and it's going to change now. No more of this crap.

Justin hits him, but not me. When he's tried to hit me, I hold his hand down and look right in his face and say, "We don't hit." Very sternly. DH just stares at him. Like he's waiting to see how far it's going to go. I also interrupt and tell him, "Don't let him hit you!" I just don't get him sometimes!

Yes, we make Justin give Emily a hug and say he's sorry. But that the thing, he enjoys that part. He'll smack the sh!t out of her and say, "You okay? Sorry sissy." And then turn around and do it again.

I told DH we need to stay on top of him. And maybe actually hold him in time-out (maybe in a corner instead of the bench?) He hates being physically held.  We have also given him time-out in his crib where we zip him in his crib tent. He hates this more than anything, but I don't want him to associate his bed with negativity.

The thing is though, it just doesn't register yet that he is being punished. The timer goes off and he still sits there. I know I just need to stay consistent and hopefully one day it will just click. In the meantime, I need some really strong drugs. When do you know it's time to try something else? My aunt is trying to get me to spank. It's not happening, but lord I want to sometimes.

KoriBrett

Nahh, I think you guys just need to find something that will get his attention.. .and HOLD it. ?I had to hold Sam in timeout a couple times, and she ?HATED it. ?I just sat there and held her and would be very quiet, telling her no she can't get up until she (insert whatever here). ?Try something that isn't a timeout. ?I think if he's already hitting, spanking is just going to keep that cycle going even longer. ?He already thinks it's ok - if he sees you guys do it, hey, party on! ?

PS I'm tired so this is getting rambly. ?I sowwy.

As hard as it might be, you need to NOT interrupt your DH in the middle of it. ?Your kids see that you're the boss and that Dad won't do anything. ?The talks should happen out of hearing of the kidlets. ?You're undermining his authority and that's not good.

I think your DS is probably fine - but your DH needs some help in figuring out what to do with him. ?So maybe you guys do need to get some help with this, but more for you two to get a good system down for all of this.

This is only the 2nd time I've ever been on happy pills so I have no idea. ?I guess when you feel the tight knot in the chest, the out of control taking over again. ?That'd be when I'd call. ?I forgot mine last night and girl, I was a cranky mess tonight.

emilykristene2006

I don't usually interrupt at all. I make it a point to usually walk away when I see it's not going how DH says, "my way". We do all of our talking when the kids are in bed and we don't actually argue about it. We were on vacation when I seen Justin hitting him. I just could not believe he was not doing anything about it!

When DH came home tonight, he knew I was frazzled. He asked if I was okay and I started to tear up. After dinner he told me to go to the bookstore and that he was worried about me. When we finally got to talk, I was very blunt in telling him what has to happen. He gets it. If he didn't before, he knows how serious I am now.

I'm rambling now, too...

KoriBrett

I'm sorry. ?I think I really would try to have someone help you guys out though. ?That way it's not your way, his way - it's the way that works, and it's just THE way. ?Some extra sleep couldn't hurt ;-)

Also - this is how DH is when he needs to write. ?Or I get when I need to see the Lake. ?Maybe meds aren't needed, maybbe you need to paint tonight ?

emilykristene2006

lol, you made me smile. I think I will paint tomorrow night. I need a bowl of cereal and sleep right now. But, great idea! And, we will get that outside help. I'm making an appointment tomorrow.

But, I am reading up on sensory processing disorder. Wow.

KoriBrett

oh don't do that to yourself!!!!!!! ?criminy woman. ?Eat some peanutbutter capn crunch for me ok? ?;-)

2 year olds suck. ?Really. ?As long as we all make it to his third birthday, I think we'll be ok. ?Same for you. ?It's survival mode until then for some kids LOL

emilykristene2006

I know I know! A friend told me to check it out. I'm not freaking out or anything.

And it's just the regular capn crunch!