Clicky: Spoil a baby?

amiamish

My mom swears it's possible to hold a baby too much, thus spoiling them and they will not want to be put down. I don't agree, I think you can hold a baby and pick them up when they cry as much as you want and still not spoil them-at least for the first few months. WDYT?[Poll]

MelandJeff

Anyone who says you can spoil a BABY by HOLDING them too much is a moron, IMO.

Hold that baby every second you can, because, soon, it will be over and you won't be able to hold him anymore.

sooosie

MelandJeff:

Anyone who says you can spoil a BABY by HOLDING them too much is a moron, IMO.

Hold that baby every second you can, because, soon, it will be over and you won't be able to hold him anymore.

Once again, I agree with Mel.  Babies are for holding, cuddling, and taking care of. 

summerbrideDC

I honestly think people who are so concerned about spoiling a baby that they won't hold their baby? Probably shouldn't bother having a baby.  

cokt

MelandJeff:

Anyone who says you can spoil a BABY by HOLDING them too much is a moron, IMO.

Hold that baby every second you can, because, soon, it will be over and you won't be able to hold him anymore.

Agree 1,000%. DS was held/worn pretty much constantly his whole first year. He turned out just fine :-) ?

MelandJeff

summerbrideDC:

I honestly think people who are so concerned about spoiling a baby that they won't hold their baby? Probably shouldn't bother having a baby.  

Yep.

amiamish

MelandJeff:

Anyone who says you can spoil a BABY by HOLDING them too much is a moron, IMO.

Hold that baby every second you can, because, soon, it will be over and you won't be able to hold him anymore.

That's what I thought! Thank you!! Colin has been having a couple cranky nights/days where he acts like his tummy hurts, so when he screams out I pick him up. Or when he's sleeping peacefully and I have nothing else I have to do at that moment, I sit and cuddle him. My mom and I are usually on the same page but this one we differ on.

belle204

My mom says that and I just roll my eyes. I hole my nephew as much as possible when I have him. Babies are meant to be held.

AggieCouple

MelandJeff:

Anyone who says you can spoil a BABY by HOLDING them too much is a moron, IMO.

Hold that baby every second you can, because, soon, it will be over and you won't be able to hold him anymore.

 I feel this way about my 4 year old. She is super attached to me (cries whenever her dad puts her to sleep instead of me, likes to fall asleep clinging my hair), and sometimes I get so irritates with the incessant closeness.  But, then I think, in 10 years, she'll probably want nothing to do with me, so I'm going to soak up all the saran wrapping now.

jordysmom09

AggieCouple:

MelandJeff:

Anyone who says you can spoil a BABY by HOLDING them too much is a moron, IMO.

Hold that baby every second you can, because, soon, it will be over and you won't be able to hold him anymore.

 I feel this way about my 4 year old. She is super attached to me (cries whenever her dad puts her to sleep instead of me, likes to fall asleep clinging my hair), and sometimes I get so irritates with the incessant closeness.  But, then I think, in 10 years, she'll probably want nothing to do with me, so I'm going to soak up all the saran wrapping now.

Funny you call it saran wrap. I call it velcro! Either way i dont care what people think. Thats why hes mine.

A-baybride

I know it's somewhat of a generational thing, but still, I have such a hard time understanding why anyone, regardless of what they've been told, could think comforting an upset baby is a bad thing.  God forbid we teach our children that if they need us, we'll be there.

hopefulmom

IMO a baby over the age of 6 months or so can certainly be spoiled.  I agree that a child that is crying should be picked up etc. but if they are "upset" because they can't reach a toy or whatever I think it is sometimes good to let them work at getting that toy.  We have friends who has a 17 month old who doesn't even crawl yet.  The reason:  they pick the DC up as soon as there is a whimper (and the LO has done this since weeks old when they tried tummy time).  So...no tummy time and no reason to "work" at reaching a toy or anything else for that matter. 

Zenya

children are 'spoiled' by neglect and abuse.  not by affection.