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marrymemylove
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Hello, does anyone remember me?
marrymemylove
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For good or for ill, I don't mind. If you can't be famous be notorious after all.
Hello all.
Its been about a year since I was here. I stopped coming when my twins died, frankly I couldn't even see a stroller without tearing up so obviously a baby message board was not a good place then. It still hurts but we're getting there.
Lots has happened. New job, love it. About to lose it (that's a long story).
New baby due in September.
Bracing for that first awful year again - please God let this one sleep and not be like DS!
Speaking of DS though he is a joy now. He's 4 and just about perfect though really has been a pleasure since he was about 2.5. I could really go for being a part time WM now (though when he was a baby I was desperate to go back FT). Unfortunately not really possible in my field though.
We bought a house, family has moved closer to us after we moved back to our home country and things are going pretty well. Pregnancy is great. Maybe if I don't get my job back I could make a living as a surrogate (except you're not allowed to get any money for it here so that won't work).
Anyway, hope all is well!
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Re: Hello, does anyone remember me?
Ha! I was wondering if that was you over on 0-3. I'm glad to hear things are going well for you. We need some spice in this place. It's boring as hell. So come back and stir the pot, please!
Alex (11/14/06) and Nate (5/25/10)
"Want what you have, do what you can, be who you are." - Rev. Forrest Church
Alex (11/14/06) and Nate (5/25/10)
"Want what you have, do what you can, be who you are." - Rev. Forrest Church
You girls wait - my pot-stirring will be riling the board and you'll moan and say what did we start????
Or maybe I've mellowed. Stranger things have happened.
The last few months I've been on an Australian parenting website. It sucks. Honest to God talk about Nanny-State. This place can be brutal but its honest and if you can take the insults there's no big deal (in my experience).
Seriously - like if you girls saw a thread in the "what do you think" section on "would you homebirth if X?" and you had a ton of people come in and say they would never homebirth, that's just crazy stupid.... or whatever.... I mean that's what you were asking for in starting such a thread right? If you wanted a nice quiet thread about homebirth you would at least start it in the HB board without posing a for vs against question???
But seriously, posts were getting deleted left right and centre (not just mine either!) by the moderators for merely saying we thought HB was not very risk averse behaviour!
And you don't even want to know how boring the abortion debate was because you weren't allowed to disagree.
You get patronising little notes from the moderators saying "I think dear that you might have some isshews and perhaps you might be better staying away from topics like this"... seriously - little pansy flowers wrapped in bloody cotton wool.
Useful to get info about local hospitals and process (after all I've never had a baby in this country, only in the US) but seriously mind-numbing in all other respects.
Bring on the NEST. Or Bump. Or whatever.
OK...so next time someone tells me I'm anti-American you gals will stick up for me right?
After all, DH is going to DC for work this week and I'm buying up big on all the things I miss (esp baby stuff for the new baby) and getting it delivered to his hotel :-P Here's hoping he can fit it in, afford the excess baggage and doesn't get done for bringing in merchandise quantities of PBK!
I'm still glad we came home as my career certainly got back on track (thank freaking God) and its lovely to be near family again and it will be hugely easier having the grandparents around when we have the new baby...but I still miss things about the States. Or maybe just NYC? Though the online shopping is US-wide I think (except Hawaii, can't believe the PB shipping charges there!).
I am going to have a gripe about gliders later too....but all in good time.
Now back to the hot topics.
strangely, you might get the same moderator 'deletions' on mothering.dot commune -- no disagreeing allowed! Different side of the coin maybe.
Congrats on your pregnancy!
Welcome back! I am so glad that you are having a new baby. I felt awful for you when I heard about the twins.
As for the new one, you may have it on September 16th. It's a wonderful day to be born.
DS - December 2006
DD - December 2008
David "BD" 2/8/07 Spencer 9/12/11'morning (or night as the case may be)
Thanks everyone! And I do remember all your names (though I had forgotten the krub secret identity thanks for reminding me).
Yeah we had a tough time this past few weeks around the twins anniversary, but it kind of helped me turn a corner and come back here. That and DH's trip and my need for some US online shopping, and the mindnumbing experience of essentialbaby.com.au that is.
I have kept a fairly fiery letter I wrote to RANZCOG (equivalent of ACOG) about the bloody OB we dealt with who was a complete fuckwit. I didn't send it at the time, didn't trust myself frankly. But before this baby is born I am going to do the last thing I can for the twins and all other women in this city and re-write it in a slightly calmer way and send it to the president of RANZCOG. Partly in the hope that some OB somewhere taps him on the shoulder and says "hey mate that was just not on" and partly in the hope he feels some shame and treats other women better in future. And partly just for the catharsis.And yes partly because I hope that even knowing one of his colleagues read what he did and said will make him feel bad.
I feel like it is the last thing I can do for the twins so when that is done I'll be just about ready to cope with the new baby. Maybe. As much as I ever would with a newborn :-)
Glad to see you back! And feel FREE to stir the pot. This place could certainly use some livening up.
So sorry about your twins. I can't even begin to imagine. Best wishes for a healthy baby in a few months (and one that sleeps like a dream)!
Hey MMML!! Glad you are back! So sorry to hear about the twins!! (((HUGS)))
And your ticker is confusing me.
And congrats on the new pregnancy. When are you due?
Charlotte Ella 07.16.10
Emmeline Grace 03.27.13
So glad to see you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!