I've never been so pissed at my DH!

knmommy

So I'm in the hospital.  He is taking the girls up to his parents for the week.  (meeting them 1/2way)  I am being discharged tomorrow.  He was asking me what time, I said I don't know they have to watch how I handle that dose of the steroids.  (lower dose than what I've been getting)  I said "why do you need to know what time, so you can go to work and I have to wait for a ride"  then he said "well I can just get the van to the hospital and you can bring yourself home"  I hung up on him.  He doesn't get it.  I guess he can't call in sick to take his wife home from the hospital.  f-er. 

I will say that he is a really good guy, he just doesnt' get it.

JOEBunny

I think we have the same husband. The last outpatient surgery I had, he ask me if we could hire someone to pick me up (we already hired someone to watch the kids).  I am lucky to have some retired/consultant friends who can help me out.  Usually, he drops me, the sitter stays with the kids, then someone else comes to pick me up on the back end.  DH always says that I need to do what I need to do, health wise, and he supports me, but he loses patience with the chronic nature of my injury (which can eventually be fixed).  I am sorry.  If you were closer, I would come pick you up, if it would not be creepy. 

monchichi

I guess how mad I am would depend on how sick I am.  When I had to be hospitalized for both pneumonia and kidney stones this pregnancy I had to drive myself to the hospital while DH stayed home with the kids (or else wait 1.5 hours for someone to get here and watch them).  I definitely wasn't 100%, but I drove myself home from the hospital both times after 3 day and 5 day hospital stays.  I also told DH that I didn't want him to take off work because I hate for him to waste days when it's not necessary.  My co-workers and family think I'm nuts, but I hate to be fussed over.

 That said--it totally sucks for him to do that if you are really feeling bad or incapable of driving.  Maybe he wants to save a sick day so that he can stay home with you sometime this coming week? 

DandelionMom

Grrrr.  I'd be mad too.

Is there a friend that can come get you so you don't have to worry about DH?

~appletini~

I'd probably be hurt more than mad.  But playing devil's advocate, what kind of job does he have?  My husband's job is kind of tough to take days off because they schedule companies to be serviced and someone has to be there.  It's tough for him to just call in and really only does that if he is way to sick to work.

I understand this, especially with the way the economy is....we can't afford for him to lose his job.  But again, I don't know if your husband may have the same issue or not.  If he can take time off whenever, I'd certainly be hurt/mad.

I hope things work out for you.

knmommy

he has many sick days, plus abou 20 vacation days.  He hasn't come back to the hospital yet.  He had some stuff to do.  My mom was talking to him and he said well she can call me when she needs a ride. 

I need him here, I need him to hear what the doctor says.  I'm being put on several new medications, I need his support.