Starting to get so nervous and scared

Sarah&Christoph

As I get closer and closer to the end I'm starting to get really nervous and scared. There are so many things running through my head like being away from DD and the fact that I might have to have a c-section because baby A was still breech at my 32 weeks appointment. I see my peri tomorrow and I'm really hoping that he has turned head down. I'm so scared to have a c-section and really really want to be able to try for a vaginal birth. Anyone have any words of wisdom that can help me not be so scared?

carolina1178

I wish I could help but I could have written this post myself :-) except for the c/s part...my ds was breeched and I was a scheduled c/s, I was terrfied of it because a few people in my life made it sound like the worst thing in the world and honestly...I am not even having 2nd thoughts about having another one for the twins.

I am going to miss ds so much while in the hospital but at the same time, I am SO excited to meet the twins and bring them home! I am tired of being pregnant, lol!!

I have a million thoughts go through my head everyday but I just have to keep reminding myself that we can do this. I also joined the local MoM groups that was a huge help because it helped bring me down and put things in perspective...there are ladies with toddlers AND triplets/quads, twins...you name it and they are great moms, still find time for all their kids and manage the day to day stuff. They motivate me and give me that hope I need :-)

Just take one day at a time..I think that is all we can really do :-)

#1_BadgeBunny

i was the same way towards the end.  I was planning on a vag birth but ended in a c-section bc DS desided to drop and pinch DD in the birth canal! The scariest part of the C-section was the running around and rushing.  (not to mention i was exhausted after 3 hours of pushing)I was convinced there was something major wrong when there really wasnt both babies were handeling everything GREAT. 

Honestly the c-section was surreal... one minute you are wheeled into the room and it feels like seconds later you hear your babies screaming. The advice i got from this board before my due date that i thought was helpful for a c-section was see if they will let your arms be free (not tied down) this helps with clostriphobia (spelling?) Dh was with me and the docs were amazing and reassuring.  You will be sore afterwards but its realy not that bad IMO. 

I will say dont be like me and push yourself in the hospital and the 1st few days home.  USE the nurses thats what they are there for.  Have them hand you the babies have DH do the diapering (trust me there will be plenty in the future take the break while you can) i pushed myself in the hospital and the first week home which made me sore longer.   

The good news is you had 1 LO already so the new scary baby stuff isnt there.  to be honest when my LOs came home i was TERRIFIED... that wasnt even thr word.  I begged my mom to take them i didnt want to hold them or feed them.  I panicked every minute of the first few days.  Now i look bad at those days and laugh at myself! Its amazing how we learn.  Now i take my kids every where by myself.  there isnt much i wont try with them. 

You will do great! GL and try not to stress this is the most relaxation you will be having for a while... enjoy it!

Feel free to PM me or somethign with any c-section questions i will be glad to help.

kelliwill

I had a c-section as well due to Gracie being breech.  Honestly I can tell you it was not as bad as I thought it was going to be.  I was pretty calm up until they made me go into the operating room and made  DH stay out.  But once the meds were in my back and I was laid down and DH came in it was okay.  Just stay calm and do whatever you need to do to stay calm (pray, think positive thoughts, etc).  Personally I wanted to know what was going on so I asked the Dr to talk me through it and tell me what was happening.  Speak up, let them know your wishes, it'll help make the whole experience better!  GL!!

casper26

I had a section w/DD.  She flipped breach and at the same time broke my water.  We got to the hospital around 8 am.  My OB was surprised to see me since I had just been in the office the day before with NO progression.  He did a sono and said ohhh ok see you around Noon!  The set me up and kept checking to see how I was.  They said I was contracting every 3 min. but I never felt one.  It was Good Friday and the hospital was understaffed and over booked w/pregnant women lolol.  I didn't get into the OR until 2pm and it was a very calm, organized experience (although I can totally understand how the emergency sections aren't and scarry).  DD was born at 2:40.  I was brought back to recovery and was there until visiting hours at 7pm!!!  Again understaffed hospital - can you believe they couldn't find someone to transport me back to a room oh and had a tough time making space!! That was ok though b/c it didn't matter where I was, I couldn't go/do anything anyway.

I was sitting up in a chair by 10pm and the next day walking around.  I told OB and everyone else I would have 15 kids if each experience was like that.

 I had many proceedures done (due to infertility) and the c-section was one of the easiest! 

Dont' stress you will be fine, your OB knows exactly what to do.