Check Out These Crappy Comments!

foxybride

I was much more open about TTC #2 than TTC #1 because silly me thought I would be okay if it didn't work.  Well, I wasn't okay like I thought I'd be.  I had a dream of 2-3 kids and it's not looking like it will come true.  So yeah, I'm sad, and I think I deserve to be.  Here are a few comments I've had to deal with.

#3:  "At least you have Carter."  This is the most common one of course and it is true.  I thank God for him every day.

#2:  "You'll get over it."  Seriously, this was a text from Carter's former babysitter who I considered a friend.  Ouch!

#1:  "Well, you and Tim seem like you are really into your careers so it's probably a good thing you just have one."  From a friend who is a SAHM of course.  So because I work that means I don't need kids huh?  WRONG!

rockvillebride

I'm so sorry you have to deal with those comments. They are all really insensitive. I'm still trying to wrap my head around only being able to have one, so I sympathize. I hope it gets easier!

cmw&tdm

I'm so sorry.  We had a more difficult time conceiving #2 and I thought it was worse than dealing with IF the first time.  *hugs*

Mouseygail

ugh...i'm sorry you are dealing with such insensitive aholes!!! 

Enza

Sorry you're dealing with this : (

I would like to know, however, what you would like to hear from people.

I have two friends/cousins who each have one child and want another desperately. I never know what to say when they talk about their struggles TTC#2.

desabean

I'm dealing with this a bit myself right now.  It's funny, I never really got annoyed at comments the first time around (but I kept TTC and IF reasonably quiet) but when people would constantly ask "when are you going to have  a baby/" and "you're not getting any younger" I mostly let it roll off my back. 

But this time around people "reminding" me that I said I would be happy with one is really annoying. Of course I am happy with one....she is the BEST thing ever.  But...I want another.  And honestly, I don't even want another for me, I'd be fine to work on getting my body back, having more money to blow on one huge wedding in 30 years, etc.  but I want to try for a sibling for HER.  And nobody that says this crap to me has only one so I want to tell them to f themselves.

By hijacking your post for my own rant I am saying-- I hear you sister.  So annoying.  I hope you get a bfp soon and that baby poops all over your righteous SAHM friend's couch.  

schoolsoutbride

Yup, people seem to think that having one kid means IF is no big deal.  I've heard a lot of that.  On top of disappointment for myself, I felt like I was letting down my son.  I'm sorry people are so insensitive.