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Annoying Grandparent Names
LeggyNic
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We spent the holiday weekend with both my dad/stepmom's family and DH's family. It was a weird mix.
Somewhere in there MIL decides that it's too confusing for DD to call everyone Grandma/Grandpa FirstName. She wants another name and starts calling herself "YaYa", getting DD to do it too.
I find this name so annoying. She totally picked it b/c it's what they call the Grandma in "My Big Fat Greek Wedding", not that there's any greek in either family. DH and I didn't use any other names besides Grandma/Grandpa LastName growing up and we know who's who.
BFP 2/14/08, DD1 born 10/11/08 (natural); BFP 5/16/10, DD2 born 01/12/11 (c/s, breech)
TTC #3: BFP 4/27/12, Ectopic 5/16/12 Expectant Management, 8/15/12 Cleared to TTC
BFP 9/25/12 EDD 6/6/13, Shooting 3-for-3 from the line: It's a Girl
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TTC #3: BFP 4/27/12, Ectopic 5/16/12 Expectant Management, 8/15/12 Cleared to TTC
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Re: Annoying Grandparent Names
My MIL is "mamaw" but she insists that every shirt that says "mama" is about her. Sorry lady, but I'm mama.
It's easy for us to keep the grandparents separate because DH's family is southern, so all of the grandparents on his side are Mamaw/Papaw Last Name. My family is Grammy/Pappy First Name.
Right now, we just call grandparents: Gramma last initial and Grandpa last initial. I was the oldest kid in my family and once I got to talking, I created my own names for each of my grandparents. I just figured that is what kids do? Although my cousins call all of their grandparents Grandma last name, Grandpa last name.
I honestly don't understand the constant fuss about grandparent names - both from grandparents demanding special names and parents getting upset by the nanes grandparents want. We referred to my parents as Grandma Theresa and Grandpa and my son has turned it into T and PopPop. My MIL wanted to be Cilla (her name is Priscilla) and DS started calling her Cil. I am sure they will evolve as his language gets better. I would just let her call her yaya for now. It will probably change and if it doesn't, is it that big of a deal?
So are DH and I. I thought the same thing. So far Grandpa is Poppa and Grandma is Bama. I'm fine with those. DD uses them for all 6 grandparents. MIL just wants to be different. She has this drive to be the "favorite". Bleh.
TTC #3: BFP 4/27/12, Ectopic 5/16/12 Expectant Management, 8/15/12 Cleared to TTC
BFP 9/25/12 EDD 6/6/13, Shooting 3-for-3 from the line: It's a Girl
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MIL demanded that DD call FIL 'tata' which is ridiculously close to 'dada.' When DD learned to say dada, MIL would say that she was calling out to FIL and not to her own father. It made my FI feel bad and made me so annoyed. Now she says papa for FI.
All of DS's grandparents and great-grandparents have different names: Grandma & Grandpa (MIL and SFIL), Grandmother & Granddaddy (my grandparents who raised me), Poppa (FIL), Bubbie (GMIL who is Jewish), Abuela & Abuelo (DH's grandparents who are Cuban).
I like it because it doesn't get confusing - but you're totally justified in being annoyed if you don't like it. If it really bothers you, ask her to stop calling herself that, and explain why - but your kids are going to call her whatever they want to call her, no matter what you or she wants them to do.
my mother agonized over what the girls were going to call her - she settled on gramme...my dad doesn't care so he's grampy and my MIL (italian) is Noni and FIL is Papa (he also agonized over his name b/c he needed to be different)
whats funny is the 2 grandparents who are usually the most laid back put a ton of effort into their grandparent names...eh...oh well...the girls will call 'em whatever they want to as they get older...
I got a good one.
SMIL wants Ds to call her "Muvie" and we have no idea where it came from but there is now way I am calling her Muvie. Oh and Sil wants Ds to call her Ta ta which to me sounds like another name for Boobies.
What is it with people wanting to be called such obnoxious names? DH's dad and stepmother keep referring to themselves as Mummum and Puppup (that's what it sounds like anyway). I despise it, it sounds ridiculous. I just refer to them as Grandpa and Grandma First Name.
My mother had originally wanted to be called Nana. I told her I wouldn't allow it, it reminded me of the dog from Peter Pan. MIL wanted to be Mimi because everything was about her (me-me). We shot that down too.
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