TTC and not miscarry

LGOLDSMITH

Hi I am new to this site,I have been reading through posts but now am ready to give my story:

I am 38 yrs old, have 2 beatiful daughters from a previous marriage who are 12 and 14.

I got remarried in April 2005 to a wonderful guy who has no children of his own. I went off the pill in 9/05 and found out I was pregnant 2 months later. I then miscarried naturally at 6 weeks. About a year later we started seeing a fertility specialist and tried clomid and injectables along with iui and no success. About a month after stopping drugs I found out I was pregnant but again it was short lived and I miscarried at 6 weeks, this time having a D & C. Pthlology came back that it was a normal chromosone boy...so why did I miscarry??? Started back to RE in Oct. 2008 again doing IUI and injectables, got pregnant and miscarried at 8 weeks.

Laporoscopy says everything is fine and hubby's sperm is fine then why is it taking so long to get pregnant and then why do I miscarry????

In Oct. 2009 we changed to another RE with a great reputation. We have done 3 cycles of IUI with injectables and nothing. Just did our first IVF cycle and now the 2 ww begins...

Only 7 eggs retrieved..6 out of 7 fertilized. All divided by 48hrs but 2 of them had multinuclei so we discarded them. Yesterday was the embryo transfer and we transferred 4: 1- 7 cell, 1- 5 cell, 2- 4 cells all with little to no fragmentation.

Are these embryos ok quality, do I have a chance at actually getting what I want sooo badly this time around???

Any help or support would be greatly appreciated.

RaineFaye

Welcome to the board and I am so sorry for your losses. I hope that your 2ww goes by quickly and that this is your take-home baby cycle!

While you wait, I hope that you will find this board as wonderful as I have. GL!

Scout05

I am so sorry for your loss, and I hope this is your cycle.

The ladies on the Success After IF board might be able to offer some great insights into their IVF experiences as well.

soontobemrs.boulet

I'm new here too! I'm so sorry for your losses and I hope you get your sticky baby soon.

M&Mlivelovelaugh

Welcome, and good luck TTC.  T & P are with you.

damabo80

I'm so sorry for your losses, but hope you enjoy your time on this board!

While we have a few ladies on here with IVF experience, you may also want to try the "infertility" or "success after infertility" boards for more IVF experience/info/help. For myself, I usually hop over to those boards when I have more in depth ART questions/issues.

LGOLDSMITH

Thanks and that is a great idea.

suntoto

Um, if the transferred the embryos, then they are probably OK.  They would not transfer embryos that they thought where not ok. 

Age is a huge factor in IF and so is something called secondary IF (IF after getting KU).  That could be why you are not getting KU when you want to.

Also, what is up with your post title?  I think it is safe to say we ALL want to get KU again w/o a m/c.  Each pregnancy has a 10-25% chance of a M/C and just b/c it happened once does not mean it won't happen again.   

MCH77

Welcome and so sorry for your losses.  I hope someone can answer your questions.

EntropicEpona

I would say that with 4 healthy embryos, you have 4 healthy embryos. That's 4 good chances at getting pregnant, but unfortunately that has no effect on whether or not you'll miscarry. I certainly hope you don't.

I get really annoyed when, after a D&C, chromosomal results come back normal and then we blame ourselves. Just because your baby was chromosomally normal doesn't mean that something wasn't wrong. In early development, so many things can go wrong...an organ doesn't develop properly, the cord doesn't attach correctly, etc... Sorry, that's a little pet peeve of mine.

The advice that the other ladies gave of heading over to IF or SAIF is sage. They'll likely have better information for you.

triple_sevens

EntropicEpona:

I would say that with 4 healthy embryos, you have 4 healthy embryos. That's 4 good chances at getting pregnant, but unfortunately that has no effect on whether or not you'll miscarry. I certainly hope you don't.

I get really annoyed when, after a D&C, chromosomal results come back normal and then we blame ourselves. Just because your baby was chromosomally normal doesn't mean that something wasn't wrong. In early development, so many things can go wrong...an organ doesn't develop properly, the cord doesn't attach correctly, etc... Sorry, that's a little pet peeve of mine.

The advice that the other ladies gave of heading over to IF or SAIF is sage. They'll likely have better information for you.

This is good to remind ourselves of. I was pretty upset when my results came back normal after my d&c and I thought the baby could have been perfect and healthy, but I had to tell myself that normal chromosomes do not necessarily mean a normally developing embryo.

OrangeCrush9

I'm sorry for everything you have gone through. I hope IVF is successful for you.

Fififa21

I don?t have any answers for you, but I just wanted to say that I?m sorry for your losses and welcome to the board!