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MH had a mini breakdown today on the phone with me. He's always mister positive, but he went on and on about how scared he is of IVF and our financial life and how he wants so much for IUI to work and how angry and sad he is about my thyroid stuff and my kidneys. I felt so bad that it was a phone call and I couldn't hug him. MH rarely says anything negative about this process. He's usually my rock and is just convinced things will work. Today he told me he's losing faith. I was trying to be his rock this time but I'm not sure if it worked. What do you all do when YH is scared and sad and doubtful. I don't handle his pain very well.. I just want to take it all away. Have you found anything that helps?
Me (32) DH (30)
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Re: MH Breakdown
July 2, 2010- BFP Beta July 5th - 931 Repeat beta July 7th - 2,779
July 13, 2010- First ultrasound! Gestational sac found!
July 16, 2010 - 2nd u/s due to bleeding. Twins found! Baby A is great! Praying for Baby B!
July 23, 2010 - 3rd u/s. Saw Baby A's flicker of a heartbeat! Lost Baby B. :-(
March 16, 2011 - Nathan James was born
November 26, 2012 - surprise BFP! It's a girl!
July 26, 2013 - Lilianna Jean was born
I'm sure you really helped just being there for him and listening to him.
I'm so sorry that your hubby is feeling down.
IF friggin blows.
100% this. MH is my rock, too. He doesn't let this get him down very often. When he does, I have a hard time knowing what to do. We talk and he usually seems better afterward, but I always wonder if he is just trying to be my rock and doesn't want to let me see his weakness. ((hugs))
~SAIF/PAIF/Everyone Welcome~
Me= 37 and DH = 41
Dx: DOR, Endo, APA+ (really high beta 2 glycoprotein antibody and high everything else tested), heterozygous MTHFR mutation, positive for lupus anticoagulant, high FSH, low AMH and both tubes blocked (per HSG on 3/8/11)
IVF #1 - long lupron (with HGH, intralipids, lovenox and BA); 4 retrieved, 3 fertilized; ET 2 blasts and 1 frozen = BFN
IVF #2 - a version of antagonist with EPP (with HGH, intralipids, lovenox and BA); 6 retrieved, 4 mature, 3 fertilized, 2 blasts and 1 frozen blast transferred on day 5 = BFN.
IVF #3 April was postponed to May, May was canceled. June/July was canceled. Had a cyst aspiration and then began IVF #3 in August. ER on 8/22; ET on 8/24 with AH. +HPT on 9/5. Beta #1 (11dpo) = 3; Beta #2 (15dpo) = 29; Beta #3 (17dpo) = 60; Beta #4 (19 dpo) = 118. Heartbeat at 6 weeks 6 days =132. Lil is here!
TTC#2: Trigger + TI = BFN; Clomid + Trigger + IUI = BFN.
IVF #4: BCP + MDLF + Lovenox = 7R, 1F = Transferred 1 6-cell embryo on day 3 = BFN
IVF #5: MDLF + Lovenox = 4R, 1F = Transferred 1 10-cell compacting embryo on day 3 = BFN
IVF #6: (New RE): Long Antagonist November 2014 (transferred two 8 cell grade 1 embryos and froze one blast) = BFN
FET#1: BFN
Me (32) DH (30)
A Wordy Blog
Baby Evangeline is here!
I've only seen my H break down in tears once (recently) and I didn't really know what to do either. I just hugged him and cried with him and I think it made both of us feel better. Just give him a giant hug when you see him.
So sorry you are going through this, but I'm glad you could be there for YH. I think it works out like that, sometimes he's your rock, and sometimes you're his.
I don't have any advice for you, because MH is still Mr. Positive. I don't know what I'm going to do when reality hits.
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Diagnosed with PCOS: 10/03, On BCP to "treat" until: 7/09
Provera to end Cycles 1-9 (anovulatory)
Cycle #4 & 5: Clomid 50 mg FAIL
RE Visit: 2000 mg Metformin
Cycle 6:Forced Break, looking for androgen secreting tumor
Cycle 7:Clomid CD 3-10, 12-17 FAIL
Cycle 8: Clomid CD 3-10, Bravelle CD 12-24 Hyperstimmed
New RE: Put on Byetta, lost 23 lbs
Cycle 9: Financial Break
Cycle 10: Femara CD 3-7, IUI CD 17 BFP on 2/14/11, m/c 3/7/11