So terribly sad today...

mrscoley

I've written here before. We are doing foster/ adoption and have adopted our 2 beautiful girls. We also have a 3rd placement... he is a 22month old boy, who has been with us since he was 3 days old. We went through with a termination hearing in March and have been awaiting the judges decision.

His decision has been made and he has decided against the TPR. In the paper work he goes on to say that he sees that parents are not fit to parent, but doesn't see that they have been given enough chances.

So now I guess we will move on to longer visits and ultimately overnight visits. This will be hard for our foster son... he has had such a hard time even doing 4 hour visits...

I'm not sure how to feel or even what to say.

gstf344

I'm so sorry :-(  I can't even imagine what you guys are going through right now  [HUGS]

MayDayGirl

oh my gosh I am so sorry   I hope that while it might take longer, the best decision is made in the end.

crystalpopcorn

I'm so sorry.

mcmann05

:-( That really stinks! I'm sorry you are dealing with that.

Amy720

I am so sorry you're going through this.  I think that too many judges don't put the best interest of the child first.  When I child goes into foster care, yes the biological parents should have a chance to get their act together and see if they are going to be able to parent, but enough is enough.

PrincessShay80

I am so sorry!!! Hopefully in the end it will work out. I cannot believe after 22 months there is still no premancay for this child. Sometimes our legal system is more abusive to these children, putting a 22 month old through this is cruel!!

JoJoGee

I am so, so sorry.  I can't even fathom why a judge would give such a ruling. PP was right, sometimes they don't put the child first.  I'll be thinking about you.

come*on*baby

I don't know how it works where you are, but normally the parents are given 12 months, maybe given an appeal of 6 months and that's it. 22 months is WAY too much.  Can you hire a lawyer to file an intervention? Clearly he doesn't see that they can parent, why give them more time if they couldn't do it in 22 months.

joeandkristie

I am so sorry to hear about your situation.  We are currently filing an intervention in our foster childrens case.  It is clear the mom cannot parent from reports we have read and what we have seen but the courts do not see that.  We hope that by intervening this rollercostar ride will stop for our children.  You guys are in my prayers.

GLynn2009

So sorry. Is there anything that you can do?

mrscoley

Please tell me more about this intervention! I will do ANYTHING for him.

GulfCoaster

mrscoley:

Please tell me more about this intervention! I will do ANYTHING for him.

Any intervention would depend a lot on state law and the practices of courts in your state...  What you need is an Iowa attorney who could tell you whether you can or can't do something with the legal system to intervene. 

*hugs*

RJMbim

I am so so sorry...I wish I could say more...my thoughts are with you though & I hope it all works out for the best.

jehnm

You and your gorgeous family are in my thoughts and prayers!  Like everyone has said, I hope that this little guy is allowed to be permanently placed so he has a stable, forever family soon! 

c1311

This must be so tough for all of you.  I can't imagine knowing what's best for a child and still being forced to do what isn't.  I hate to say it, but sometimes I think the legal system treats children like property rather than making decisions that are in their best interests.  I hope you are able to file some sort of an intervention or appeal for your FS.

Take care.

so1966

Sending you so many ((((HUGS))).

connor mom

I am so sorry. This must be very difficult for you and the whole family. I pray for you and hope that there can be a way for this to work out.

 

I am going to send you a PM too.