I have been crying all day...

k827

I am so tired.

 I took some of  ladies advice earlier about just mentioning to H that maybe we take and extended break...like 6 months or so. It wasn't well received to say the least. I ended up in tears...It makes me well up now just thinking about it...He wants to try a "couple" of cycles with the new place where I want to try one MAX. He also said if IVF/FET's didn't work that there were no other options. No adoption. No D IUI. This is it for him. Final decision.

He said since he's going to be 40 soon (in Jan) he doesn't want to wait anymore (I'm 30).  I feel like either way I lose. I upset him or we don't have a family If I do not try...

I feel so alone. I told him that we will revisit the topic another time when things are less heated. I am going to try and see if he will go to a therapist with me at some point. I need an end to this. I mentally just can;t think...well if cycles keep failing I will keep trying and I don't want to lead him to think that either..ugh..today sucked.

For today I am going to shelf it. Enjoy my summer and see if I feel better emotionally by Sept. Girls, thank you so much for listening!

I will be going to a Resolve meeting in July/Aug

whispergrrl

Oh, hon...I'm so sorry you're having troubles with your DH. I'm sending thoughts and prayers, and lots of hugs to you hoping you two can come to some common ground....

k827

whispergrrl:

Oh, hon...I'm so sorry you're having troubles with your DH. I'm sending thoughts and prayers, and lots of hugs to you hoping you two can come to some common ground....

this sucks so bad. I love him to death. Hes my best friend..this is the first time we haven't seen eye to eye when it comes to IF.

Stuckinthemiddle

I'm really sorry that you are having to go through all of this, and that it is straining your marriage.  I am wishing you the best, and I hope you can get some piece while on your break this summer.  (((HUGS)))

scooterq

I am so sorry.  I hope that after a little bit of time you'll be able to reach some common ground! 

((hugs))

njohnson1972

I am so sorry you are going through such a tough time.

(((hugs))) 

newsbaby

I feel your pain from reading the post. You are making the right move to shelve this dilemma until after the summer. Right now your emotions are raw. Take the time to think everything through clearly and then I am sure you and your DH can come to a compromise. Hugs.

psychmusetls

:::huge hugs::: I'm so sorry that it seems so dismal right now. A break might be exactly what you need to heal your heart and your mind. Maybe give dh time to think about the joys of adoption as well. :::hugs::: I hope the two of you can find a solution that makes you both happy

DeputiesWife

I am so sorry.

::hugs::

Dragonfly1226

I am so sorry hon. I really hope that your dh will agree to go to therapy with you eventually so that you can work it out. I can't imagine how hard it must be to hear that he isn't willing to talk about adoption right now.

(((((hugehugs))))) 

albjag

((Hugs))

Hoping you can find some common ground or at least both be at peace with the decision you make.  

I also hope your break helps clear your minds and hearts and brings you closer together.  

miesl

I am so so sorry to hear abut everything that's going on.  I hope you and your H are able to work everything out so you are both happy.

momto3cats

I'm so sorry.  I hope that you are able to enjoy your summer and the you and your DH are able to talk about everything and come to an agreement in the fall.

Zanymermaid

I'm so sorry that you are going through this. Hopefully, you and your DH will be able to come to agreement on a decision in the fall. HUGS!!!!