admitting difficulties

mrs25

Does anyone get asked by friends and coworkers how it is to be a mom-and you really want to be honest and talk about what a hard job it is but you feel like you have to act as though it's the most wonderful thing in the world?  Am I the only new mother that thinks taking care of a baby is hard work?

chick730

It is hard work, no doubt about that!!  But I still think it is the most wonderful thing in the world.

It is absolutely the hardest thing I have ever done too.  When people ask, I usually just focus on the wonderful happy parts because that is what they want to hear.  In reality I am exhausted, frazzled, stressed and my husband is no help at all.

mrs25

Thank you for your honesty!!!

chick730

You are welcome!  It feels good to get it out there

just_peachy

email me @ bluerosemlm@yahoo.com

I can tell you that I can absolutely feel what you say.  Everyone in Bumpworld and FB world seem to be on cloud nine doing this and that with their little one.  Maybe because I am an older 1st time mom, but I am not feeling as much joy over this process as I want to.  

kle+spd

No one really has asked me that...

but I guess I'd probably tell them what they wanted to hear too!

But my mind first goes to the crazy amount of guilt I feel as a mom that I never expected to have!

Quilty for working all day, Quilty for not giving her 100% of my time when I get home (trying to give DH attention too), Quilty for worrying that I have the right learning toys/food/stimulation for her, the way my MIL makes me feel with all her comments about what I do with DD....it's endless!  

mrsjami

 It is absolutely hard! I think work is actually easier. For me, I do better as a mom by balancing my time with work and mommyhood. It's not for everyone, but I am not embarrassed to admit that.

sophiet496

I feel you 100%...and often sit around wondering if there is something wrong with me for feeling like this.   I actually felt better after I went back to work, as well.  I guess my life felt more balanced.  But I'm a teacher and now off for the summer.  Everyone is like, "Oh, you must be sooo thrilled to have the summer off!!!!!!!"  Inside my head, I'm thinking, "Well, kinda, but also I'm terrified of being with LO 24-7!!!"  It's so dang hard!  He's in a fussy, teething, wanting to crawl but not there yet phase which is NOT helping either.  I definitely can admit to missing my carefree, me-DH-dogs days!

Vuja_de

I never sugar coat anything! Being a parent is HARD anyone who tells you otherwise is lieing! When people ask me how I like being a mom this is my usual answer "I love being a mom, but it is the hardest job I have ever had!"

I love being a mom but some days I just wish I could spend a whole weekend all by myself at a spa or something! That doesn't mean I don't love my husband or my son it is just.. normal (IMO).