rage

hthomas02

OMG.....does anyone else feel this way?

whenever Finn hits, pushes, kicks, etc Riley and knocks him down or really hurts him I get this huge burst of RAGE where it takes everything in me to not scream at or hit Finn.  Like it makes me SO MAD that he would do that and hurt Riley.  He's so good when he plays with other kids but when it comes to Riley he just doesn't care and it makes me SO MAD!!!

on the other hand it makes me laugh when Riley gets a good punch in.

KT&John

I obviously don't understand from a sibling perspective, but I do know how you feel.

Last week Cadence got 2 reports for hitting another child to get their toy and I felt so, so FURIOUS that she would hurt another child C is, for the most part, a very sweet and loving little girl. I think it hurts as a Mom to see that "I want what I want right now and if I have to bop you on the head to get it I will" side of your toddler.

Anyway, when I got her home after the second incident, I somehow managed to make my voice very sad, almost like I was crying and explained that I was sad she hurt her friend. She also lost her favorite doll overnight Friday was a good day. We'll see how today goes.

I hope Finn moves past it quickly. My nephews also go through this and it seems like the younger one will someday be must broader/stronger than the older one. We always joke that he'll be sorry for beating up on his little bro

trinandgabe

DH is 18 months younger than his brother. His response would be that this is just how boys act and to get used to it. I was mentioning how DS has lately been really rough with me and DH said it's him being a boy. Maybe you can teach Riley self-defense:-)

amanda_holbird@hotmail.com

I go through this constantly. It's funny, though, because Jack is 19 months now so he is actually starting some of the fights, himself, but most of the time, he'll still end up being the one hurt because Ethan is bigger and doesn't realize his own strength compared to Jack's. I do get upset with Ethan when he hurts his brother.

Yesterday was a bad day for my boys.  They fought all day long.  They were throwing things at each other, pushing, hair pulling, etc.  Both had to go into time out several times.  Last night when I was tucking Ethan into bed, he informed me that he wanted a baby sister and that he didn't want Jack anymore.  LOL!!!  This morning before we left for daycare, Ethan pushed Jack.  Dh and I made the boys hug each other before we left the house.  Ugh!  Siblings.

myrall

Heather, my younger sis and I are 23 mos apart. I used to beat on her until she got nice long fingernails. That put an end to much of it really fast. She would mark me up something awful. 

But I would expect that stuff to go on for a while. Our last fistfight was after I got home from freshman year of college. It ended in a bloody nose and a fat lip between the both of us.  

andrea922

I feel this way when Finn won't nap. Like today. Or when he won't eat. Like every meal. But that isn't probably what you mean

maykat

well 9/10 it's Aerin starting the fight.  If Alec is not paying attention to her, she will go over and scratch/pinch him.  She also will go and get his favorite toy and run away with it.

In the beginning though, Alec did push her a few times and I went ballistic--major time out.  Aerin cries so hard whenever she is even slightly wounded, it makes Alec feel awful.  He immediately apologizes and goes and helps her.  He is now really gentle with her.

Now, I'm struggling with explaining to a 3 yr old, that his little sister is young and doesn't know not to pinch or not steal his favorite toys.

MrsBrandiGreene

I fear we should probably strap ourselves in, Hezzer.....long road ahead! My sister and I fought like that for YEARS.  Harrison and Avery have already done that and more.   I get upset b/c Avery has always been the "tiny girl" but she starts it half the time too.  Siblings

hthomas02

yeah, I know, they are siblings and boys and are going to fight, and I'm actually OK with it when they are both fighting with each other, if that makes sense.  but like today when Finn pulled riley down off a chair onto the hardwood floors and he bit his tongue and was bleeding I was so farking mad.  but you're all right, I need to remember that things are just going to get worse, ha!  and Riley is just like Aerin Kathleen, he is a total instigator!