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Is anyone else freaking out...
...about becoming a mommy? I spent the day yesterday doing the final prep stuff for baby's arrival--laundry, putting the stroller together, etc., & I had a bit of a meltdown. I was sitting there folding tiny little onesies, & I just started thinking, "OMG, what the efff are we doing???? We don't know what to do with a baby!" I told DH that it was kind of like the feeling like when you're on a roller coaster, & you get to the top right before you go flying down the big drop, & you have that moment where you want to get off, & you know it's too late--you're committed.
Don't get me wrong, I am SO excited to meet this LO, & I am so excited about this new adventure, but I realized yesterday how completely terrified I am at the same time. This is by far the HUGEST thing I have ever done, & it just started to sink in that from this point forward, everything I do will affect someone else, & the things I do will shape her personality and the rest of her life. SCARY. I kept looking around the room at her little bath stuff, her blankets, her bottles, her nail clippers, etc. and thinking that I am responsible for every little thing to ensure the well being of this baby. I haven't changed a diaper since babysitting in high school, I've never given a baby a bath...I started feeling very incompetent. I know that I will figure it out, but it just really sunk in yesterday. Is this hitting anyone else?
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Re: Is anyone else freaking out...
The minute she is born your Mommy instincts kick in and although you will always have worries, things all of a sudden come into perspective..You look at your LO and can not imagine that you could love anything more in your life! You think you love your family and your DH...just wait!!!
Anyway, my point is, everything will come naturally....It is normal to feel the way you are feeling..knowing that there is this little angel that depends solely on you...It is one of the most unselfish things we as woman can do....
You will be an incredible Mommy!!!!
Mel is right, the maternal instincts will kick in. Actually she said everything perfectly. And what you don't know, you will figure it out. Your LO will love you anyways, even if you put the diaper on wrong.
FWIW, I think my freak out happened the first day Caroline was home and I put her in her swing. She was sooo tiny and looked so helpless. That's when I lost it. But, I quickly got over it and we all did fine.
You will be a great mommy!
Yes, I was totally freaked out. I didn't think I was mature enough to be a mom, I had no idea what I would do with a baby, and my freak out was that I was going to have to buy A-man a winter coat for 18 years and they are expensive (crazy right!)
You will fall in love like never before when your eyes meet. I tell every one for me there was like a switch that was tripped when Anderson came out of my vagina that turned on the mommy instinct. (And I'm sure it is tripped also if a C-section is necessary as well).
You will do great and we will be here to help when you need it.
I've had a few special moments in the past weeks as well. My friends definitely don't get how 'hypothetical' babies are until they actually come out. They don't get that it still sometimes doesn't feel REAL.
I feel like I'm up to speed on baby CARE but as far as life with baby is concerned I feel a little helpless sometimes.
We'll figure it out!
I agree with Mel, your mommy instict comes very quickly!
we are all here for you if you need anything!
I am not going to lie and tell you that mommy instincts will come out, I still don't have them. For the most part, figuring out what is wrong is still a guessing game. But I have figured out how to make it work. We're one semi-time schedule, she eats every two to three hours. Sometimes she naps, but about every two hours I try to get her to go down for a bit/rest time. Throw some diaper changes in there. If I have learned nothing else, try everything twice - diaper, feed, play, cuddle.
The point of my story is even if you don't have mommy instincts, you'll work it out. Besides, you don't really have a choice. So enjoy!!
I haven't really had my moment yet. I feel strangely confident in becoming a mommy, which probably means that I'll be the one to fall apart, right?
The only fear that has been creeping up on me lately is the change in relationship between me and DH. I know that it's going to change, but I'm scared of the unknown because I don't know how it's going to change exactly.
I keep thinking about this as well!