hmm WWYD? Moving so I can be a SAHM

blublusher

I currently live in California. Beautiful state with everything i love. BUT its expensive. The cost of living and taxes are just yowzas. No way can i be a SAHM unless we sold our home.

My DH got laid off recently and he is looking really hard for a new one but nothing has panned out yet. He's had so many interviews but no offers. Recently he we in his home state of Wyoming visiting family and got an interview with a company located there. They offered him the job!

We are trying to figure out if its worth moving or not. If we moved I could be a SAHM or work only PT which i would love. Cost of living there is also so much cheaper but it doesn't have all the 'things' California has including the beach.

If you were me and had the opportunity to move somewhere less favorable but could be a SAHM, would you do it?

catycombs

I would, but that's b/c SAHM is my dream job. Wyoming is beautiful too! I would move out of FL in a heart beat!

xnbride

most definitely! What an adventure. Sometimes you have to take a risk.

I was WOTH until DS1 was 2 years old. My husband got a job in another city, so I resigned my job (everyone thought I was insane) and we moved. It was the best decision we ever made. I tell people that I got a promotion. 

Remember that it is just a season in your lives. If you are miserable then you can move back, but it is definitely worth a try. 

sharmurph18

OMG!  I would move to Wyoming in a heartbeat--even if it wasn't to be a SAHM (like Caty-that's my dream job too!)!  What a beautiful state!

ladyalmalthea

You would have family support there as well. You could always try to move back sometime.

biochemgirl

I would do it especially since he has family there.  DH and I have no family where we are now and at times that really sucks (and at times it's also a blessing).  I don't think i would move away from family to be able to SAH but I would definitely move where family was to be able to SAH.  We want to move back to NJ where are families are but it's just as expensive as where we live now (property taxes are out of control) so I won't be able to SAH.

I'd definitely consider it!

sgrl

Do you like his family (the family you'd be close to?) That would be a big factor for me. I lean toward yes, though.

spwspw

Ooh, that would be a tough one for me... I love living in California, but hear you on the cost of living.  There's no way we'd ever be able to live comfortably on one salary here.  If I were in your shoes, I'd be very tempted, but wouldn't be able to pull the trigger and leave behind my friends and family.  I guess it also depends on how well you get along with your ILs, how you'd feel about leaving your own circle of friends and making new ones, etc.

bride2be79

I would do it in a heart beat but more to be near family than anything.  You can always go to the beach on vacation.  Plus, Wyoming has lots of "things" they are just different from CA--like less traffic, less pollution, more wilderness etc.  :-)   Seriously though, I am sure you will find plenty to do in Wyoming.  Plus, in all honesty if you are even considering it you probably already know what you should do.  Good luck!

blublusher

thanks for the feedback ladies.

His family is in wyoming but my family is in california. I definately think i could handle living there. But I don't know if i can handle being so far away from my family. i'm pretty close to my sisters and my oldest sister just had a daughter too. SHes only 4 months apart. i always thought it would be fantastic for Sam to grow up with Alex...ya know?

I told my sister we might move and she told me that shes going to cry. That may not seem like a big deal but my sisters nick name is The Ice Queen...tee he he

I do like my ILs but i also havent spent oodles of time with them since we're so far away.

blublusher

And I know this sounds sooo stupid but i LOVE LOVE LOVE our pedi and my ob/gyn here. I would have to have to find new ones.

If you've ever had a hard time finding a quality doctor, then youknow the feeling.

Vuja_de

In an new york minute! I would absolutely jump at that chance.

getnmarried910

I would do it in a heartbeat!  I am a SAHM and I wouldn't trade it for all the "things" any state or city could offer me.  As my oldest is quicky approaching four years old, I'm realizing how short the time is, and she'll soon be off to school.  I want this time with them.  I vote you do it!

jonnygurl76

i say go for it!!  an adventure!  and to be able to stay at home!  you could always move back.....you already know you love california but what if you really love wyoming?? 

your family might migrate if they visit you and like it too.....you just never know.  i would go just so that i couldn't ever say "what if....?"

nadiarl

Are you near family here in California? I know, the Central Coast *is* the best place on earth, but being a SAHM is so great. You can't get these early years back.

If you are in SLO county, my guess is that your pedi is Dr. Bravo. 

gotchagomo

Definitely GO!! California is over and done--everyone is bailing out of there!