GRR So annoyed..Advice

first-time-mama

Ok..So i have a friend who wants to keep LO over night..I trust her so its not that.  But he has only stayed away like twice and stayed with his NanaC (thats what we call her ) Anyways..I do want to go out tomorrow night to dinner and a movie with DH and I was going to ask her to babysit for us..But she goes on and on about how we need a night alone, and how she wants to keep him all night.  We both honestly feel that a night out alone means he can come back home.. DH and I love to wake up in the morning to his sweet face!  He sleeps so good he goest to bed around 8-830 and sleeps till almost 730am.  She goes on and on saying you in sleep in time..But to be honest if he is gone we will still get up early, its habit. 

I dont know what to say to her because she is so pushy.  I dont mind her keeping him while we go out..but I want to have him in him own bed for the night.  I am actually pretty laid back when it comes to leaving him.  Dh and I go out once a week or so.   And we put him in the nursery at church,and if we are with other people we let them hold him whenever.  He is really great with people.  But I just get annoyed when she tells me what I "need" to do.

He is my kid.. What would you guys do and/or say?

Ivana_Stolichnaya

Be blunt and say he'll be coming home with you...he's your child, you make the rules.  If she can't respect your wishes, then she's not really a true friend.

jonnygurl76

i don't understand why people want to have our LO's stay overnight with them.....i just don't get it.

i would tell her if she is free to stay with him while you and DH go out that would be great, but he doesn't need to stay out overnight until you are ready and you don't know when that will be.  if she continues to be pushy, i would just tell her thanks anyway.  and leave it at that.

first-time-mama

Thanks ladies..I dont see a problem with letting your LO stay the night..But I dont feel burnt out .. I just love waking up to hearing him playing in his crib and when we go in he gets so excited..I love it !

daisy_dueller

I would just keep saying, "No, that's OK, we'll take him home at the end of the night"...hopefully eventually, she'll give up.

I have friends that I trust to take him for the night, but I keep thinking 'What if he wakes up screaming, and she can't calm him? I'll have to go get him in the middle of the night, and it will be a nightmare!'

ladyalmalthea

Just tell her you don't want her to keep him all night. You don't need the excuse, you're the mom. (I had a friend in a similar situation.) You don't need to give excuses.

If she keeps pushing it, then find someone else to sit and tell her you did that because they did as you asked, just kept him for the evening.

 

Heck, I make people come to my house to babysit DS, otherwise it's a no-go.