What do ya'll think?

slmcronelaw

One of my good friends e mailed me this morning upset because her DH gets all these sexual e mails and texts, you know, like pictures of boobs, or vags or whatever and she is really offended by it and she wanted my advice.  Well, to be honest, DH gets the same kind of stuff and it just doesn't bother me.  I am not offended by it and I don't care that he looks at it, forwards it, whatever, it just doesn't matter to me.  I told her I thought it was normal and that most guys do get this kind of stuff sent to them, at least every guy I know does and that I didn't really think it was a huge deal. 

Am I being insensitive about it or not?  I guess she thought I would be offended and agree with her that he was a nasty pervert, but men are just like that, that's just how they are.  They see a pair of boobs and they want to see EVERY pair boobs, they are visual creatures.  We are wired very different.

I was just thinking about it and wanted some other takes on it..

daisy_dueller

If it's from his guy friends, I wouldn't care. If a chick was sending that to him (even if they were jokes, etc) I would probably have a little chatty chat with him about that.

But I also don't care if he goes to the strippers (which he hasn't done is YEARS), or watches porn when I'm not there. I'm on the liberal side of things. But I have girlfriends that are just like yours, and can't stand any kind of 'competition'. Personally, I think it's jealousy that makes women think that way.

LovingLife!

I'm gonna have to disagree with you on this one, I would be upset just as your friend is.

DH does not get this stuff sent to him b/c he has told friends to remove their forward lists if they are going to pass along that kind of smut. They respect him & stop forwarding it.

Just because men are visual creatures does not make it okay to look at degrading pornographic images, it is harmful to healthy intimate relationships! 

dragonsmercy

Emails and that kind of thing I wouldn't be too worried about.. texts would be a bit different... I'm not PAYING for him to look at porn!! Not when you can get free porn online! (I pay for both our cell phones, seeing as how DH doesn't have an income right now)

But I'd just tell your friend that if it really bothers her, to talk to her DH about how it bothers her, because that's the only way it's going to get solved... if it gets solved *shrugs*

Culkinator54

It wouldn't bother me, either.  DH gets those kinds of things, too, and it's really no big deal.  You're right - men are very visual.  And since it doesn't bother me, I would have given your friend the exact same advice.

daisy_dueller

LovingLife!:

I'm gonna have to disagree with you on this one, I would be upset just as your friend is.

DH does not get this stuff sent to him b/c he has told friends to remove their forward lists if they are going to pass along that kind of smut. They respect him & stop forwarding it.

Just because men are visual creatures does not make it okay to look at degrading pornographic images, it is harmful to healthy intimate relationships! 

See, it's TOTALLY different if your husband is not one that enjoys those types of things. I agree that not ALL men are visual creatures, or enjoy those kinds of things, but I honestly think the majority of men do. I respect a man that is willing to say that to his friends. Really, I do.

AdamsWife08

Dh gets these type of emails/texts ALL.THE.TIME!  I've learned never to read a text message to him off his phone unless I want to see some woman and her bits.    I prefer not to!

mistywhite400

slmcronelaw:

One of my good friends e mailed me this morning upset because her DH gets all these sexual e mails and texts, you know, like pictures of boobs, or vags or whatever and she is really offended by it and she wanted my advice.  Well, to be honest, DH gets the same kind of stuff and it just doesn't bother me.  I am not offended by it and I don't care that he looks at it, forwards it, whatever, it just doesn't matter to me.  I told her I thought it was normal and that most guys do get this kind of stuff sent to them, at least every guy I know does and that I didn't really think it was a huge deal. 

Am I being insensitive about it or not?  I guess she thought I would be offended and agree with her that he was a nasty pervert, but men are just like that, that's just how they are.  They see a pair of boobs and they want to see EVERY pair boobs, they are visual creatures.  We are wired very different.

I was just thinking about it and wanted some other takes on it..

meh..I'm with you on this, not a big deal.  Now if it was an obsession that's a whole other deal, I would have an issue b/c it's not healthy to be obsessive about anything! 

Abinormal

I'm in agreement with you Slmcronelaw (suprised?). DH gets these types of emails/texts all the time and I really don't care that he gets them. As a matter of fact, if they are funny, he will sometimes forward them on to me. I don't care who they come from either, as long as it isn't some chick sending him a naked picture of herself.

slmcronelaw

Abinormal:

I'm in agreement with you Slmcronelaw (suprised?). DH gets these types of emails/texts all the time and I really don't care that he gets them. As a matter of fact, if they are funny, he will sometimes forward them on to me. I don't care who they come from either, as long as it isn't some chick sending him a naked picture of herself.

We are way too much alike!  I too don't care if he sends them to me to look at, if they are funny!