Are you going to try for a girl?

meghans30

I have two healthy, happy boys. There are no more biological children in my future and  it took 2 years for me to feel settled about this decision. My husband was always 110% sure he was done with 2 no matter the genders. I work full time as a teacher and he works the night shift. We are just stretched thin. I think I could have badgered him into having a 3rd, but I would have felt guilty.

The other day another teacher asked if we were "going to try for a girl. Aren't girls the best?"

I wanted to scream at her! Even if we were going to have a 3rd, I wouldn't have done it just to see if we could have a girl. I politely told her no and added the my DH had a VS!

Ugggh! 

Jamaica_Bride

WORD.

Don't ask me that question without me kicking you. Even if we were 100% guaranteed a girl with #3 I'm not sure we'd have one. I love and adore my boys so fukoffffff!

 

So, yeah I'm feelin ya )

penguingrrl

I hate that!  Everyone keeps asking if we're going to try "for a boy" and I don't get it.  We likely will try for a third child, but would be equally happy with a boy or a girl.  If we wanted to try only for one sex we never would try.

jaime ma famille

I HATE it when people make comments like that.  As if you could only have a happy family with at least one child of each sex.  I wouldn't try for #3 if I only wanted a girl.  My best friend just had her fourth boy, and she REALLY wanted a girl.  

Lisa102304

UGH, I am so sorry. I don't know WHY people think that you need to have each gender to make you feel complete.

 

We are going to TTC next month, and I hope for a boy ONLY because I don't want to deal with this question! If it is a girl, I KNOW DH will get "pity" for not getting a boy - when he actually could not care less. GRRRRRRRRRRR

Carol*Brady

I have 3 girls...i hear pity for my DH in people's voices but I don't give a f*ck---I joke that we're trying for 3 boys...but it's a JOKE.

ilovemygirls

My bff has one of each & it annoys her when people say "Oh, a boy & a girl- so perfect!'  As someone else said, you don't have to have each gender to have a complete family!  Sure, my DH would have loved a boy- as I would have.  But God gave us two beautiful girls and we are so thankful for them!

amy05-04

Pregnant w/#3 and we got a lot of disappointed Aw's when we told them it was another boy.  Thanks people, that is just what I wanted to hear! lol

*Amy*

This pg I felt so much pressure from people about it being a girl.  Like there was NO other option for our family. I politely said, "It is a very strong possibility it could be a third boy and we would love him just as much   I was going crazy for the u/s just b/c I wanted people to lay off.  They don't know how hurtful what they say is.  Like we have control over what gender we conceive.

I was pissed off after my big u/s with J because people acted disappointed that it was a 2nd boy. If you ever met my J you would agree there is absolutely nothing to be disappointed about. He is awesome.

 

peekaboo716

ilovemygirls:

My bff has one of each & it annoys her when people say "Oh, a boy & a girl- so perfect!'  As someone else said, you don't have to have each gender to have a complete family!  Sure, my DH would have loved a boy- as I would have.  But God gave us two beautiful girls and we are so thankful for them!

One of each here too and people all the time assume that we would be done having kids since our family is "complete." Whatever. I still want a 3rd. Working on DH for that one.

lebeda777

So glad to read all of your comments.  I am preggers and have 2 ds's and am so not wanting to tell anyone for fear of stupid comments about having a girl.  I am fine with either and will be happy with either, but don't want peoples comments to start making me feel bad for having 3 boys.  I love my boys!

shopgirl78

I have two boys and a girl and get asked "are you going to even it up?"  I think people just try to make conversation.