Underwear recognition question

Pesky

So PTing finally clicked with DD over a week ago so this last weekend, we tossed the pullups and diapers (except for night) and switched to underwear.  Problem is that so far, every time she wears underwear, be it the thick cloth training pants or the flimsy panties, she pees in them.  If she wears nothing (going commando as it were), she is a PTing rockstar -- not a single accident.

Clearly we have to undo the training of peeing in her pants but any tips to make it more effective?  I will say I have noticed that it is more effective (albeit messier) in the flimsy ones because the pee runs down her leg and is decidedly more uncomfortable for her whereas she is more apt to sit in the cloth training pants for a bit before telling us.  How long does it take to make the connection of NOT peeing in the underwear?  TIA!!

Sharon&Paul

We had the same issue and kept going back to commando. Actually she would start the day with underwear and if she peed in it she went commando after that. After a couple weeks (2-3 weeks) she just stopped going in the underwear. Well we still have accidents if she tries to hold it too long, but she does not intentially use the undewear to pee in.

jlw2505

I would stick to the thin ones and make her a part of the whole cleanup process.  Also work on a reward system for staying dry.  We do 1 Skittle for pee and 2 for poop.  With my girls, at the point where they get it, I do a skittle each time they go and after they are doing well but maybe down to an accident or two a day - we move to a bigger prize at the end of the day for staying dry all day and then move to a sticker a day for a week and then a big prize at the end of the week.

Pesky

Sharon&Paul:

We had the same issue and kept going back to commando. Actually she would start the day with underwear and if she peed in it she went commando after that. After a couple weeks (2-3 weeks) she just stopped going in the underwear. Well we still have accidents if she tries to hold it too long, but she does not intentially use the undewear to pee in.

I would totally do that each and every day if I could but she can't go commando at daycare.  So while there it will be underwear.  Probably commando at home though.  At least there will be success at some point!!!

dnagal

LOL, maybe they make toddler thongs!  You can wean her onto panties!  (sorry couldn't help myself.)

FroggyFarts

I'd stick to the not padded ones so that she can feel how gross it is to pee on herself. Let her know to keep her big girl panties dry and let you know when she needs to potty.

I think it will click for her when she realizes she's wearing big girl panties every day. No matter how many she messes, she has to get a new one.

I also agree with having her help to clean up and maybe giving her lots of praise for keeping her pants dry. 

cotner

We make it out to be icky and yucky, etc.  We talk about how she doesn't want to feel icky so next time we will go in the potty.  It seems to help.  Also, she has to take her wet clothes to the laundry basket and get a towel and help clean the puddle.  She has only BMed twice, but both times she had to help me rinse them out in the toilet.  I always give her new clothes and she has to put them on herself.

Obviously I wouldn't do this if the reaction from her was fear or anything that would hinder training.  I just tell her in a nice tone that I wasn't the one who pee-peed in my pants so why should I clean it up?  She really has responded to this well.