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Weird Story About A Fertile - WDYT?

patchen30patchen30 member
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Well, I guess I can't call her a fertile yet bc that's yet to be determined, but you know, chances are... So my good friend was OOT Fri and we bumped into her husband at a bar and he was really drunk. I knew my friend wanted to have kids soon, but he spilled the beans out of nowhere that she went off the pill and they were trying. Not only am I now terrified that she'll get KU before me, but I'm kinda pissed that this came from her husband and not her. It's one thing if you're going to not tell anyone, fine. But then the husband should keep a lid on it too. Also, I overheard a conversation she had with another friend of ours a few weeks ago and I *think* she was telling her then. She and I are much closer than she and the other friend. Now, she does not know about us, but not bc I haven't wanted to tell her - DH won't let me bc he's friends w/ the husband. I think she isn't telling me bc we have a slightly competative friendship and I think she sees me as competition (little does she know). If you were me, would you clue her in to what her DH told me? So awkward now and I'm resentful. Sorry if this is one block of text, writing from my phone...

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Re: Weird Story About A Fertile - WDYT?

  • lyse2143lyse2143 member
    I'd probably wait and let her bring it up. Maybe he is supposed to keep a lid on it however some people have very loose lips after a few drinks. If she didn't want people to know and he told people that might not be pretty. I wouldn't want to get in the middle of that. On the other end of that, I think its news she should get to tell and to whom she chooses. I'm sorry that you're close and she hasn't mentioned it to you but perhaps she hasn't had an opportunity to. No matter the reason, I'd still keep quiet that I knew.
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  • kit.kat343kit.kat343

    Have you told any of your mutual friends about your situation?  Is it possible that she has heard about it from a mutual friend even if you didn't tell her?  If so, it is possible that she didn't want to tell you because she doesn't want to hurt you. 

     

    I'd also agree with the previous poster's assessment of the drunken husband's actions.   

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  • Dragonfly1226Dragonfly1226 member
    I wouldn't say anything about it until she brings it up.
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  • CharBartCharBart
    I would definitley let her tell you first.
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