Anyone elses family?

KristenJcksn

My DH's family is super excited about the twins, as are we. My family on the other hand won't talk about or acknowledge the twins, because they're nervous about me losing them.

I know twin pregnancies are really risky, but we tried for over a year to have these babies and to not have everyone acknowledge them sucks. Even if I was to lose the babies to us they would always be a part of our family, they have names, we'd talk about them, so I don't understand the avoidance. Sorry just needed to kind of vent. Anyone elses family respond this way?

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When I was 17w with JR, I complained to DH about the same thing.  We didn't have a hard time getting pg with him, but his parents never ask how I was feeling, how my appts were, etc.  DH said it was because IL's were scared I was going to m/c (MIL m/c her first pg, but that was because of a car accident anyway).  I don't know if he said something or not (he said that he didn't), but it was literally that night when we went over for dinner that they finally said something about the pg.

Enza

Interestingly, I am the one behaving the way your family is right now. We have a 1 year old DS and just learned we are having twins (after being told I was pregnant with a singleton the week prior.)

Anyway, I am the one who doesn't want to discuss the babies right now. My ILs are already discussing room arrangements and sex and I am getting annoyed because I am concerned that I may not be able to care for DS the way I would like to. Truth is, I was like this when I was pregnant with my first ... then my excuse was that it wasn't a success until he was born (we have severe IF.)

I realize it makes you unhappy, but I really think it's just the way they are ... things will likely improve as you get farther along, but I doubt they'll behave the way you would want them to : (

Sorry you are having to deal with any sort of unpleasantness during such a happy time .

MNheidi

You're 20wks and they're still nervous?

I actually had to reign my family back in - I was getting "twin gifts" early on and finally had to tell my parents and ils - please, no more gifts until these boys are here.

Shelley-Bean

My ILs were like this.  When we first found out we were pregnant, ILs first response was 'we'll pray for you" (and they're not religious).  A few wks later, when we said they were twins, they said "let us know when it's a little more permanent." 

I'm sure they will be better when the babies are actually here.

macchiatto

Our families weren't really like that, but that would suck. I'm sorry.