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Parenting after 35
Pesky
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The Vent List
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Re: The Vent List
-my belly was in the way of me closing the fridge door yesterday.
-my son now decides he does not like his regular 1pm nap time and chooses to rather nap at 6pm, which means its a PIA for him to fall asleep any earlier than 11pm now!
OMG, I'm afraid that if I start writing here, I'll never stop. So I'll just write about one thing.
We've short sold our house, escrow closes at the end of next week. Before we put the house on the market in December, we made arrangements with my MIL and SFIL to move into what was DH's grandparent's house, which his mom and SF have been renting out to the same tenants for the past 18 years. Joke is on me for not asking to go inside the house before asking for this "huge favor" -- which involves us paying them more per month than the tenants were, by the way. After they moved out, we went to take a look, and it's a $h!thole. Broken windows in every room. Broken drawers and cabinets. Half the shower door is missing, with the jagged edge covered with tape. Part of the wall covering the pipes in the shower missing. No stove or oven in the kitchen. Nasty linoleum and carpet. No screens on the windows, and all of the window cranks are missing so that they can't be opened without difficulty -- a big problem in a pre-WWII house without central air or heat. Doors that don't close. An old wooden pull up garage door that's so warped that I can't pull my car into the garage. Termites. The tenants also didn't even clean the poop out of the toilets (which I discovered when Keira stuck her hand in the toilet and I started screaming for someone to give me hand sanitizer) or the dead bugs off of the window sills or out of the bathtub when they left.
Oh, and they don't have money to fix any of this except for replacing the broken window panes and ordering a shower door. And no money to get a termite inspection and tent the house. We can't back out because they rely on this income, and they would never be able to find someone to rent the house in its current condition. So that leaves me and my parents (because I don't have enough cash for this right now) stuck with the high bill for making the place liveable in time for us to move in next weekend.
The ILs were always talking about what *fantastic* tenants they had, and how sorry they were to have to ask them to leave. They even wanted US to pay for their last months rent (we said no). But now I realize that SFIL like them so much because paid their rent on time and they didn't ask him to do $h!t. They probably didn't ask him to fix things because they were doing things like removing closets, busting out walls, and breaking shower doors and windows. He obviously never went by the house, and didn't do any maintenance. And he didn't do a walk-through with them when they were moving out. Seriously, WTF?
Sorry for the novel.
Mine's not really that big of a deal:
DH and I want to find somewhere to settle down before DS gets to be too much older. The vent part is that DH won't offer anymore input than, "somewhere in this time zone."
It would be nice not to have it all up to me.
My Blog
My is just typical wife ranting. My DH is off work for the summer and he takes DD to daycare for 6 hours a day. So do I come home to a clean house, chores done? Nope- the house has gotten progressively messier by the day. He can't even be bothered to put things in the garbage can because he has a lid that must be activated by a pedal. So he just piles it on the counter above the trash can.If I come home the same tomorrow, the beatings will commence.
Dh is sick...Men are such babies when they are sick.
* my clients are all over the map and officially BSC
* layoffs are looming -- think I'm safe but you never know
* neighbor just confessed the reason she has been cold and pissy, downright petty, is because I "hurt her feelings" a YEAR ago. Have no clue what the hell she is talking about and she won't tell me yet. Just sighed and says "she'll come over to talk". I swear if this wasn't a neighbor who I have to deal with frequently, I'd write her off as BSC too.
* about to be invaded by the parents and then the ILs. yes, their visits overlap.
DD -- 5YO
DS -- 3YO
- my DH is in Chicago with his family for his brother's graduation. I hate when he's not here.
- Brigid is getting more and more difficult at night and I always do all the dinner, bath, nighttime routine, why can't he at least bathe her?
- My tummy is huge.
- I can't remember the last time I wasn't tired.
- the receptionist at work is quitting. I won't really miss her but they are not replacing her, just adding her work to ours, I can't wait to start my leave.
- The bank raised our mortgage payments by $400 a month because they underestimated our taxes.
- our tenants gave notice, they move out next month so we are losing half of our mortgage payment in income.
-I'm sick. I caught Mally's virus and it has knocked me on my ass.
-Work is killing me. I'm doing the work of 3 people and can't keep up. I used to think it was because I'm not working hard enough, but now I see that there aren't enough hours in the regular workday to complete everything that needs to be done. And I can't stay til 8PM like I used to pre-baby, so I'm screwed and stressed all day every day. Plus one department seems to have more "power" than every other department so I'm being bullied on a daily basis by someone who's junior to me. Joy.
-I want a house. We live in a 1BR condo. But getting a house opens up a giant can of life-worms: Where will we live? (can't afford anywhere near a house in our town) What will we do when we get there? Will we miss our "old" life?
-Another friend just quit her job to "freelance" and it pisses me off that I have to be shackled to my desk. (This is flame-free, right?)
-I'm working hard to get this baby weight off but it's going so freaking slowly it's depressing.
- My arm is broken, yep my dominant hand. Had to hire a nanny who is great but won't shut up. DH has to help me do my hair, I'm looking so hot these days.
- We have lived in our house six months, purchased new appliances, replaced windows, hired painters, had termites, upgraded cable and installed a home alarm system. ALL had MAJOR problems, some still in progress. Can people please just do what they are supposed to do????? I literaly spend about 20 hours a week trying to get these problems fixed. Why are people so lazy?
This pretty much sums up all my husband-related vents. Grr.
I also really hate this limbo. We are waiting on a preliminary visa approval before we can even start to plan our move, and once that goes through we have six weeks. I'm not really familiar with the North Bay, and we'll need to find a house rental that's okay with three indoor fluff machines. My mom and sibs really want us to visit this summer, and I really want to visit, but it's an extra layer of stress right now.