Not spanking hard enough...

lexigrl · June 2010

I just re-read the original post and I have to say its messed up...why on earth would you spank your child because he is crying when you put him to bed...ever try comforting him ??? LO's at this age are still pretty much still babies and need that comforting...it makes me really sad to think you are spanking your DS because he cries at night when you put him in bed.

RHitch · June 2010

Wow, talk about jumping on the band wagon!!! The responses to this thread were so different until one person was determined to bring everyone's attention to drama. No, I do not spank my child for not going to bed, but who am I to call someone an idiot that does? Tell her you disagree with it and move on. For some reason, I don't think half of the women on this board would win the mom of the year award, so why be so judgemental all the time?

This just reminded me why I do not frequent this board anymore.

Gracie - I don't think spanking him to get him to sleep is the right way to do things, however, it is your kid. My DD is going through a "crying" stage at night too. I usually let her cry for a few minutes to see if she would put herself back to sleep. If not, I go go in the room, hug her, and reassure her that I am only down the hall and everything will be OK.

ToledoDeux · June 2010

RHitch:
Wow, talk about jumping on the band wagon!!! The responses to this thread were so different until one person was determined to bring everyone's attention to drama. No, I do not spank my child for not going to bed, but who am I to call someone an idiot that does? Tell her you disagree with it and move on. For some reason, I don't think half of the women on this board would win the mom of the year award, so why be so judgemental all the time?

This just reminded me why I do not frequent this board anymore.

Gracie - I don't think spanking him to get him to sleep is the right way to do things, however, it is your kid. My DD is going through a "crying" stage at night too. I usually let her cry for a few minutes to see if she would put herself back to sleep. If not, I go go in the room, hug her, and reassure her that I am only down the hall and everything will be OK.

The responses to this thread were different because people were not getting that she spanks her kid for not being able to go to sleep. Once they did, the appropriate responses were given. She's an idiot.

If this causes you to absent yourself from the board, we'll all try to get over it.

Ravings Rabbids · June 2010

RHitch:

Wow, talk about jumping on the band wagon!!! The responses to this thread were so different until one person was determined to bring everyone's attention to drama. No, I do not spank my child for not going to bed, but who am I to call someone an idiot that does? Tell her you disagree with it and move on. For some reason, I don't think half of the women on this board would win the mom of the year award, so why be so judgemental all the time?

This just reminded me why I do not frequent this board anymore.

Gracie - I don't think spanking him to get him to sleep is the right way to do things, however, it is your kid. My DD is going through a "crying" stage at night too. I usually let her cry for a few minutes to see if she would put herself back to sleep. If not, I go go in the room, hug her, and reassure her that I am only down the hall and everything will be OK.

Am I a perfect mom?

No.

Are you a perfect mom?

No.

Is ANYONE on this board a perfect mom?

No.

But I'm sure as hell going to judge someone who spanks their child to make them stay in bed or stop crying. THIS ISN'T EVEN A TWO YEAR OLD. They don't understand why they're being hit!

RHitch · June 2010

I am not saying I disagree with what you ladies are saying, I just think it is a better way to communicate it.

trizzie · June 2010

Raving Rabbids:
RHitch:

Wow, talk about jumping on the band wagon!!! The responses to this thread were so different until one person was determined to bring everyone's attention to drama. No, I do not spank my child for not going to bed, but who am I to call someone an idiot that does? Tell her you disagree with it and move on. For some reason, I don't think half of the women on this board would win the mom of the year award, so why be so judgemental all the time?

This just reminded me why I do not frequent this board anymore.

Gracie - I don't think spanking him to get him to sleep is the right way to do things, however, it is your kid. My DD is going through a "crying" stage at night too. I usually let her cry for a few minutes to see if she would put herself back to sleep. If not, I go go in the room, hug her, and reassure her that I am only down the hall and everything will be OK.

Am I a perfect mom?
No.

Are you a perfect mom?

No.

Is ANYONE on this board a perfect mom?

No.

But I'm sure as hell going to judge someone who spanks their child to make them stay in bed or stop crying. THIS ISN'T EVEN A TWO YEAR OLD. They don't understand why they're being hit!

This.

My head and heart hurts after reading the OP. I cannot imagine defending that.

Sage Mommy · June 2010

RHitch:

Wow, talk about jumping on the band wagon!!! The responses to this thread were so different until one person was determined to bring everyone's attention to drama. No, I do not spank my child for not going to bed, but who am I to call someone an idiot that does? Tell her you disagree with it and move on. For some reason, I don't think half of the women on this board would win the mom of the year award, so why be so judgemental all the time?

This just reminded me why I do not frequent this board anymore.

Gracie - I don't think spanking him to get him to sleep is the right way to do things, however, it is your kid. My DD is going through a "crying" stage at night too. I usually let her cry for a few minutes to see if she would put herself back to sleep. If not, I go go in the room, hug her, and reassure her that I am only down the hall and everything will be OK.

I'm pretty sure the first few posters skimmed and didn't catch it. They were not condoning her actions.

And yes, she is an idiot for thinking hitting a toddler will make him sleep better.

Ooooh bad 12-24, judgey b!tches!!!! LMAO

Go sh!t PNR somewhere else.

Ravings Rabbids · June 2010

RHitch:
I am not saying I disagree with what you ladies are saying, I just think it is a better way to communicate it.

Ohhh.

Okay, gotcha. Lemme try another way.

Gracie, sweetie...it's wrong to spank your first born. He's just a defenseless baby who thinks sticking fingers into his nose is a grand time. He doesn't understand why Mommy wants him to STFU and go to sleep in his big boy bed. He doesn't understand that Mommy smacks his @ss because he isn't listening! He thinks that when it's bedtime, it means that Mommy is going to be VERY VERY ANGRY with him, and so he gets scared because he thinks that bedtime equals MOMMY MAD AND YELLING AND HITTING time. But it's okay, we all make mistakes and you've learned your lesson, right? There, there now. It's okay.

Riiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiight.

Chrysallys · June 2010

This is a post that truly warrants an, "I feel sorry for your child", because if you indeed spank your kid to keep them in bed, you are a shiity parent.

Sage Mommy · June 2010

RHitch:
I am not saying I disagree with what you ladies are saying, I just think it is a better way to communicate it.

:cuddles Gracie: Oh dear sweetie, hitting your your little boy at bedtime pwobabwy isn't the best idea. (((hugs)))

violetvirgo · June 2010

RHitch:
Wow, talk about jumping on the band wagon!!! The responses to this thread were so different until one person was determined to bring everyone's attention to drama. No, I do not spank my child for not going to bed, but who am I to call someone an idiot that does? Tell her you disagree with it and move on. For some reason, I don't think half of the women on this board would win the mom of the year award, so why be so judgemental all the time?

This just reminded me why I do not frequent this board anymore.

Gracie - I don't think spanking him to get him to sleep is the right way to do things, however, it is your kid. My DD is going through a "crying" stage at night too. I usually let her cry for a few minutes to see if she would put herself back to sleep. If not, I go go in the room, hug her, and reassure her that I am only down the hall and everything will be OK.

so you're saying that there's nothing that warrants idiot status in the parenting world?

spanking your kid (who is ONLY 2!)to get him to STOP crying and go to bed is stupid. just like it's stupid not to use a carseat. just like it's stupid to feed you kid only burger king at every meal, every day. just like it's stupid to leave your kid along int he bath tub.

eta: like it or not there are shitty parents out there. and sometimes the lack of common sense astounds me.

RHitch · June 2010

Raving Rabbids:

RHitch:
I am not saying I disagree with what you ladies are saying, I just think it is a better way to communicate it.

Ohhh.

Okay, gotcha. Lemme try another way.

Gracie, sweetie...it's wrong to spank your first born. He's just a defenseless baby who thinks sticking fingers into his nose is a grand time. He doesn't understand why Mommy wants him to STFU and go to sleep in his big boy bed. He doesn't understand that Mommy smacks his @ss because he isn't listening! He thinks that when it's bedtime, it means that Mommy is going to be VERY VERY ANGRY with him, and so he gets scared because he thinks that bedtime equals MOMMY MAD AND YELLING AND HITTING time. But it's okay, we all make mistakes and you've learned your lesson, right? There, there now. It's okay.

Riiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiight.

How about: Gracie, I think you should try a different approach when attempting to get your son to go to bed at night. I don't know if someone advised you to spank your son to get him to go to sleep, but it's not the right thing to do. Instead, you should try rocking him to sleep or laying next to him. That way he understands that although he is going to sleep, he is still safe and mommy is still close. Hitting him is teaching him that going to sleep is a negative thing, and as a result, he gets in trouble for doing it. Your son is not even two years old yet, so he does not understand why he is being spanked at night, therefore, you are doing more harm than good. I am sure this is not the result you want (I'm hoping anyway), so you should try a different approach.

jolis_petits_bijoux · June 2010

Chrysallys:
This is a post that truly warrants an, "I feel sorry for your child", because if you indeed spank your kid to keep them in bed, you are a shiity parent.

What Chrys said.

::shakes head at OP in disapproval::

andrealynn0707 · June 2010

RHitch:
Raving Rabbids:

RHitch:
I am not saying I disagree with what you ladies are saying, I just think it is a better way to communicate it.

Ohhh.

Okay, gotcha. Lemme try another way.

Gracie, sweetie...it's wrong to spank your first born. He's just a defenseless baby who thinks sticking fingers into his nose is a grand time. He doesn't understand why Mommy wants him to STFU and go to sleep in his big boy bed. He doesn't understand that Mommy smacks his @ss because he isn't listening! He thinks that when it's bedtime, it means that Mommy is going to be VERY VERY ANGRY with him, and so he gets scared because he thinks that bedtime equals MOMMY MAD AND YELLING AND HITTING time. But it's okay, we all make mistakes and you've learned your lesson, right? There, there now. It's okay.

Riiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiight.

How about: Gracie, I think you should try a different approach when attempting to get your son to go to bed at night. I don't know if someone advised you to spank your son to get him to go to sleep, but it's not the right thing to do. Instead, you should try rocking him to sleep or laying next to him. That way he understands that although he is going to sleep, he is still safe and mommy is still close. Hitting him is teaching him that going to sleep is a negative thing, and as a result, he gets in trouble for doing it. Your son is not even two years old yet, so he does not understand why he is being spanked at night, therefore, you are doing more harm than good. I am sure this is not the results you want (I'm hoping anyway), so you should try a different approach.

Well aren't you sanctimonious.

I see no reason to coddle someone that feels the need to spank their child for crying. Even spanking proponents don't suggest that. That kind of behavior suggests the type of logical thought process you are suggesting is not present.

You don't have to be nice to people to get the point across.

violetvirgo · June 2010

RHitch:
Raving Rabbids:

RHitch:
I am not saying I disagree with what you ladies are saying, I just think it is a better way to communicate it.

Ohhh.

Okay, gotcha. Lemme try another way.

Gracie, sweetie...it's wrong to spank your first born. He's just a defenseless baby who thinks sticking fingers into his nose is a grand time. He doesn't understand why Mommy wants him to STFU and go to sleep in his big boy bed. He doesn't understand that Mommy smacks his @ss because he isn't listening! He thinks that when it's bedtime, it means that Mommy is going to be VERY VERY ANGRY with him, and so he gets scared because he thinks that bedtime equals MOMMY MAD AND YELLING AND HITTING time. But it's okay, we all make mistakes and you've learned your lesson, right? There, there now. It's okay.

Riiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiight.

How about: Gracie, I think you should try a different approach when attempting to get your son to go to bed at night. I don't know if someone advised you to spank your son to get him to go to sleep, but it's not the right thing to do. Instead, you should try rocking him to sleep or laying next to him. That way he understands that although he is going to sleep, he is still safe and mommy is still close. Hitting him is teaching him that going to sleep is a negative thing, and as a result, he gets in trouble for doing it. Your son is not even two years old yet, so he does not understand why he is being spanked at night, therefore, you are doing more harm than good. I am sure this is not the result you want (I'm hoping anyway), so you should try a different approach.

bahahahaha. maybe you should take up residency at www.pnrmommy.com were there is zero snark and everyone group hugs.

punkfiction_v.3 · June 2010

gracie, im going to try to turn this thread into something that helps you. really. i think you are an idiot, yes. but since you don't mind being judged, im going to come up with a few things that you can do that people might not agree with but may work.

1. take a snack upstairs with you and chill out in his room for a picnic before bed. just the 2 of you. with a new baby coming (heaven help you/it/everyone), it would nice time with just his momma.

2. think about getting things in there he loves. maybe a small mounted tv for just movies. he obviously needs some wind down time that you are not giving him when you think he's ready for bed. you can time the tv for 15 or 30mins and he's likely to be asleep before that time is over.

3. see if he'd rather have his crib back. if he does - deal with it. put a tent over it and let him feel secure with all that he has ever known. bc - well, he's a baby. and thats how it goes.

become a parent. not a tyrant. and figure it out.

HunterMomma · June 2010

punkfiction_v.3:

gracie, im going to try to turn this thread into something that helps you. really. i think you are an idiot, yes. but since you don't mind being judged, im going to come up with a few things that you can do that people might not agree with but may work.

1. take a snack upstairs with you and chill out in his room for a picnic before bed. just the 2 of you. with a new baby coming (heaven help you/it/everyone), it would nice time with just his momma.

2. think about getting things in there he loves. maybe a small mounted tv for just movies. he obviously needs some wind down time that you are not giving him when you think he's ready for bed. you can time the tv for 15 or 30mins and he's likely to be asleep before that time is over.

3. see if he'd rather have his crib back. if he does - deal with it. put a tent over it and let him feel secure with all that he has ever known. bc - well, he's a baby. and thats how it goes.

become a parent. not a tyrant. and figure it out.

Yes Yes Yes Yes

LoriFalce · June 2010

Well, I know nothing cheers me up and settles me down like a good bedtime beating. Better than Ambien, true story.

Maybe instead of hitting him HARDER, you should change what you are hitting him with. How about some black sneakers? I'm sure you could leave the tags on and return them to Kohl's after you smack your kid around with them.

::eyeroll::

Ravings Rabbids · June 2010

RHitch:
Raving Rabbids:

RHitch:
I am not saying I disagree with what you ladies are saying, I just think it is a better way to communicate it.

Ohhh.

Okay, gotcha. Lemme try another way.

Gracie, sweetie...it's wrong to spank your first born. He's just a defenseless baby who thinks sticking fingers into his nose is a grand time. He doesn't understand why Mommy wants him to STFU and go to sleep in his big boy bed. He doesn't understand that Mommy smacks his @ss because he isn't listening! He thinks that when it's bedtime, it means that Mommy is going to be VERY VERY ANGRY with him, and so he gets scared because he thinks that bedtime equals MOMMY MAD AND YELLING AND HITTING time. But it's okay, we all make mistakes and you've learned your lesson, right? There, there now. It's okay.

Riiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiight.

How about: Gracie, I think you should try a different approach when attempting to get your son to go to bed at night. I don't know if someone advised you to spank your son to get him to go to sleep, but it's not the right thing to do. Instead, you should try rocking him to sleep or laying next to him. That way he understands that although he is going to sleep, he is still safe and mommy is still close. Hitting him is teaching him that going to sleep is a negative thing, and as a result, he gets in trouble for doing it. Your son is not even two years old yet, so he does not understand why he is being spanked at night, therefore, you are doing more harm than good. I am sure this is not the result you want (I'm hoping anyway), so you should try a different approach.

I like my original approach better.

Buttttt maybe next time I'd throw a bunch of angry eyes in for effect.

>:(

madameladauphine · June 2010

I hope you told him to STFU

kscarlett5683 · June 2010

I'm seriously about to cry.

Forget about the debate on spanking, let's look at logic here.

You are trying to stop your child from crying. Your solution is to SPANK HIM. The point of spanking is that it hurts. The result is your child starts to CRY.

Yeah, result FAIL!!!

CFO · June 2010

LoriFalce:

Well, I know nothing cheers me up and settles me down like a good bedtime beating. Better than Ambien, true story.

Maybe instead of hitting him HARDER, you should change what you are hitting him with. How about some black sneakers? I'm sure you could leave the tags on and return them to Kohl's after you smack your kid around with them.

::eyeroll::

FTW!

MrsTotty · June 2010

I agree with 99.99% of the other responses to this post. Gracie, you're a moron.
I can't believe I'm saying this, but listen to Punk. She offered several very good tips that actually make sense.
Gracie, you're a moron.