RE says I need IVF

rjl07

She can't find anything wrong - ute looks good, I respond very well to meds, sperm is ok - so it could be a fertilization issue.  I was expecting her to say this, but I still had a meltdown when I got in the car and called DH.  If IVF came with a guarantee I would feel much better about it, but it doesn't and it is going to cost a boatload of money since we are OOP.  I really need lots of cocktails right now.

BeachCole

Oh, honey I'm so sorry. I know that's not what you wanted to hear. I hope there is something that can be figured out to help with the cost, or the payments, and that this will be a success if you go for it. Big (hugs) and lots of yummy cocktails sent your way. 

KristysRedBarn

I'm so sorry, that would be very difficult to hear.  Hugs and a

mlmtgg

oh sweetie - I am so sorry this was the news. This is so much to think about it - and so frustrating, especially when you respond so well to the meds and there is not another issue. Is RE willing to do more IUI if that is what you want to try?

I know you and DH will take the time and make the decision that is right for you.

mdm2137

I'm sorry. ((hugs))

JuJuBe3

Oh hon, I'm so sorry to hear that.  I hope that time and some talks with DH will help you decide what is right for you.  Hugs to you. 

pepomntpat

I am sorry. {hugs}

3ltlones

I'm so sorry.  I know that was definitely not what you wanted to hear.  I hope that once that sits with you for a little while you will feel a little better about it.  Huge hugs and definitely lots of cocktails.

KiKiMe

I'm sure that is very hard to hear - I am so sorry. :::hugs:::

jdeats71

oh hon - I'm sorry that was the outcome of the meeting with the RE.  I know that's not what you want to hear, especially since there's no definite reason for the IF.  I think that is so frustrating!  I'll be in the same boat if this next IUI doesn't work - and also OOP.  UGH!

Big, big hugs to you and a truckload of coming your way!!!!!

 

 

Scout05

I am so, so sorry.

TravelinMama

I'm so sorry, I wish you got some better news.

jen629

I am sorry Robin {{{HUGS}}}

Amanda78

I am so sorry.  Big hugs and lots of cocktails to you.

dondraandluis

Oh, no! I'm so sorry. We are here for your through it all (((HUGS)))

PeetiePie

Such a difficult decision and process.  I'm sorry hon. (((big hugs)))

bbhalphen

I'm so sorry! Mine has suggested that to me before for about the same reasons-very hard to hear. ::Big hugs::

ERICA21779

Im sorry ((((hugs)))))  and lots of cocktails coming your way!!

This is a very scary and expensive thing to hear and I don't blame you for melting down.  Would she be willing to give IUI another few shots???

rjl07

Thank you all so much.  It is so great to be able to say whatever I'm feeling to all of you and know that you understand and will say the right things.

I think since she doesn't know why the IUI's aren't working that it isn't worth it to keep trying.  From what I can tell, most RE's seem to think if something is going to work then it will happen within 3 tries.  So I would probably just be throwing away another $500/cycle on the IUI.  It probably makes sense just to save that for IVF. 

I'm going on Amazon now and ordering OPK's and the book "The Infertility Cure".  I just put Momagain in charge of my cycle and she isn't letting me temp so it's just OPK's, wheatgrass, and acupuncture for a while and hopefully I'll get that magical break cycle BFP.

ERICA21779

rjl07:

Thank you all so much.  It is so great to be able to say whatever I'm feeling to all of you and know that you understand and will say the right things.

I think since she doesn't know why the IUI's aren't working that it isn't worth it to keep trying.  From what I can tell, most RE's seem to think if something is going to work then it will happen within 3 tries.  So I would probably just be throwing away another $500/cycle on the IUI.  It probably makes sense just to save that for IVF. 

I'm going on Amazon now and ordering OPK's and the book "The Infertility Cure".  I just put Momagain in charge of my cycle and she isn't letting me temp so it's just OPK's, wheatgrass, and acupuncture for a while and hopefully I'll get that magical break cycle BFP.

 

That's awesome and I hope you get it!!   (((hugs)))

cintim

Oh Robyn, I'm so sorry it had to come down to IVF. I have a strong feeling, though, that you will be successful with IVF. Will they be doing IVF with ICSI? I think it's a sin that fertility treatments aren't at least partially covered by insurance. When will you begin to prepare for the IVF?

rjl07

cintim:

Oh Robyn, I'm so sorry it had to come down to IVF. I have a strong feeling, though, that you will be successful with IVF. Will they be doing IVF with ICSI? I think it's a sin that fertility treatments aren't at least partially covered by insurance. When will you begin to prepare for the IVF?

I have to go back for a consult where I guess we'll decide about the ICSI.  I'm thinking that I might as well do it, especially if fertilization is the issue.  My RE also requires Assisted Hatching when you are over 38.  I really don't want to start until at least September.  I need a break from the meds and the bloating is ridiculous so it would be nice not to have to deal with that over the summer.  The problem is my RE office is probably one of the most expensive for treatment so I don't know if I should even do it there.  Luckily I have a good prescription plan so the medication costs won't be too bad.  This should give us 2-3 months to try on our own and hopefully make all of the IVF crap irrelevant.

momagain2009

rjl07:

Thank you all so much.  It is so great to be able to say whatever I'm feeling to all of you and know that you understand and will say the right things.

I think since she doesn't know why the IUI's aren't working that it isn't worth it to keep trying.  From what I can tell, most RE's seem to think if something is going to work then it will happen within 3 tries.  So I would probably just be throwing away another $500/cycle on the IUI.  It probably makes sense just to save that for IVF. 

I'm going on Amazon now and ordering OPK's and the book "The Infertility Cure".  I just put Momagain in charge of my cycle and she isn't letting me temp so it's just OPK's, wheatgrass, and acupuncture for a while and hopefully I'll get that magical break cycle BFP.

 

Don't forget the wine!!!!  That was a very important component!

 

JaimieLee

I'm so sorry, that's tough news to hear even if you expected it.  You're in my thoughts and I really hope this works out for you ((hugs))

 

cintim

rjl07:

cintim:

Oh Robyn, I'm so sorry it had to come down to IVF. I have a strong feeling, though, that you will be successful with IVF. Will they be doing IVF with ICSI? I think it's a sin that fertility treatments aren't at least partially covered by insurance. When will you begin to prepare for the IVF?

I have to go back for a consult where I guess we'll decide about the ICSI.  I'm thinking that I might as well do it, especially if fertilization is the issue.  My RE also requires Assisted Hatching when you are over 38.  I really don't want to start until at least September.  I need a break from the meds and the bloating is ridiculous so it would be nice not to have to deal with that over the summer.  The problem is my RE office is probably one of the most expensive for treatment so I don't know if I should even do it there.  Luckily I have a good prescription plan so the medication costs won't be too bad.  This should give us 2-3 months to try on our own and hopefully make all of the IVF crap irrelevant.

Maybe worth looking into another clinic? I'm hoping the break from the meds & help from momagain prove to be successful that you won't have to worry about the fall and the cost. Big hugs, hon. You're in my prayers.

surfergirlkona

I am so sorry, I know this was not what you wanted.  Who does.  I hope that everything works out and that you and DH can work towards your dreams.  Sending you lots of love, hugs, and mojitos.

Sonadora

::big hugs::

babes12

Jeez, i don't know what to say.  i really hope you get a surprise BFP w/o any meds.  ) 

SweetieD21

Oh no, I'm so sorry you have to go down that road.  A friend of mine ordered her drugs through England, said they were a lot cheaper.  I know that won't help you all that much, but every little bit helps.

LMichelleG

(((BIG HUGS))) I realize this is not the news you were hoping to hear. I'm so sorry!!

kew243

I am sorry.  Hope the cocktails help. 

triple_sevens

Huge hugs, Robin. I know ivf is not guaranteed, but the success rates are quite high these days. I have confidence it could work.

And I've been wooed by Barbados Fertility Clinic through facebook ads. I'm tempted to look into it if we ever have to go that route. Much cheaper, and you get to vacation in Barbados

ashleyy0219

I am so sorry.  I hope that you get a surprise BFP this summer...perhaps July.

butterfly843

((hugs)) Our RE couldn't find anything wrong either. We did IUI's which didn't work for us. Ivf gave us our twins, unfortunately my body sucks and went into labor way too early. Did you ask if they have any trials or anything that may save you money with ivf? With our old insurance we were told ivf was covered, at the last minute we found out it wasn't but my RE's office felt so bad they rushed to get us in a trial program they had and you only pay a small amount of the procedure.

ade2be

I'm so sorry.  Making the jump to IVF is a big jump.  I know its scary to me as well.  Hope you enjoyed some good cocktails and have some time to think through this all.