A decision in the making...

kellieok

Oh hun, I just got on and I am so so sorry to see that you are going through this. I can't believe your DH said those things to you and is treating you like this! Doesn't he realize his sperm is what determines the gender of the babies!!! I am literally sitting here crying at my desk, especially after reading Allison's post too. Ugh. I am so disgusted right now... We are here for you! T&P for you! ((BIG BIG HUGS))

~*BREN*~

*shortie:

Wow. I am so, so sorry to hear this. Your husband is acting like a complete *ss and a complete child. Spoiled, immature, selfish. I hope that counselling is an option you'll explore together, but I hope that if he refuses to change his behaviour and treatment of you, you'll seek alternative, more separate solutions. *hugs*

This is exactly how I feel.  He has to understand what he's doing and he has to WANT to change in order for it to happen, but if he thinks he is doing nothing wrong, then I think that is a major red flag.  After all you've been through, you'd think he would be thrilled that your pregnancy is going well and not only are you pregnant with one child, but two! You are giving him two beautiful twin girls! What a gift! One should be so effing lucky!!!

He is definitely being verbally abusive to you Clayli and you do NOT deserve this.  Not at all.  Only, now there are your daughters to think about.  If he doesn't change will he do this to them? Will he put them down? Will he resent them for the rest of their lives because one of them was not a boy? Just some things to think about.  I do agree that you need to talk things out with him, but make sure that your friends and family members know what is going on, just in case you need to a) leave  or b) ask him to leave and you need someone to come stay with you.

I am truly sorry that you are dealing with this right now.  I know you are hurting, but I also know that you are a strong woman.  Don't put up with any sh!t dude, you are worth way more than that.  Know that we are here for you. **HUGS**

OCIrishBruin

Clayli - I am so incredibly sorry you are going through this.  I agree with many of the pps - your H's actions have really crossed the line.  You deserve much better than this and you really can't expect him to change without major work (i.e., therapy).  Sending you lots of hugs, girl.  I know this is really tough. 

Kelly0615

I am so sorry you are dealing with this. You and your baby girls will be in my T&P. We are here for you no matter what.

(((HUGS)))

happyhoopla

I'm so sorry that you're dealing with this. He really needs to take some time to do some major reflection and growing. *big hugs*

irishmama13

I'm so sorry you are going through this. T&Ps to you.

erpetdoc

I read the posts from lax and you yesterday, and so wanted to reply (stupid blackberry).  Please know that I'm thinking of you Clayli.  I can't imagine the gamut of emotions that you're going through.  The stress you're experiencing cannot be a good thing for the beautiful daughters growing inside of you though.  I think getting away would be a good idea, even for just a few days.  His flippant attitude toward your marriage is not acceptable, and he needs to realize that you are committed to your daughters no matter what else he has in mind.  It's not fair to you or to your babies to be put through the emotional abuse that he's dishing out.  Take care of yourself, take care of your babies, and travel safely if you do decide to go anywhere.  I'll be thinking of you, and keeping you in my prayers.