q for those whose fathers are no longer living...

groovygrl

this is my first father's day without my dad (and my husband's first so a bittersweet day) and I want to do something in honor of him but just not sure what. I don't live near my mom & brother (he is having her over to his house with his FIL & MIL though) so doing something with family isn't an option plus I do want the day to be for MH so it would be something kind of on my own...I thought about asking my mom to take something to his gravesite but it isn't really fitting to either of our personalities. I'm not sure what else to do except maybe donate $ in his name or something like that.

Anyone do anything to honor their dad on father's day?Thanks.  

BRSaugust20

I am very sorry for your loss.

My dad has been gone for 15 years (as of 4 days ago).  Did your dad have any hobbies like any games, etc?  For instance, if he was a reader, maybe you could set aside 30 minutes of your day to read something as a rememberance to him. My dad was a big reader and loved cribbage so sometimes I have DH play a game with me. 

I also make it a point to call my mom on the day of his passing, his birthday, their anniversary, etc.  I know she really appreciates it that his kids are thinking of him.  My brother blew it this year and never called my mom on the anniversary of his passing and she was super upset about it.

So even if you can't come up with something to honor him with specifically, I think calling your mom and your brother is a nice gesture.  Maybe tell a funny or touching story when you talk to them as a way to bring him memory to the forefront of the day without it being all about him.

MrsT1209

I started this tradition with DD last year and it means a lot to me.   I write a note to my dad (he passed away 15 years ago) and put it in a balloon and have the balloon filled with helium.  DD picks out a balloon as well and we talk about Dad/Grandpa being in heaven and how the balloons would make him so happy on Father's Day and we release them in the sky together and I tell her something wonderful that I remember about him. 

I also call my mother on Father's Day because I know it's a hard day for her. 

marcuej

This will be the 3rd Father's day without my dad.  I have the admit, the first couple were bittersweet for me.  I didn't have my dad to celebrate and DH wasn't a father yet.  I wish I would have thought of a good way to honor him, but we end up doing that on his birthday, which is in May.  My dad loved Thai food, so we always eat Thai food on his birthday and I'll listen to Willie Nelson in his honor.  As my girls get older, we'll definitely add some a new tradition honoring grandpa.  I want them to know all about my dad!!

samk213

My dad has been gone for 10 years. We always go visit his gravesite on fathers day. This year we will take LO there to meet his grandpa. We celebrate his passing as well and I always call mom on special dates.