Success after IF

Just going to have to get used to it...

I guess.  Went out with some friends to an outside, on the water, bar/restaurant last night.  It was the first time since we announced we were expecting that we had seen a lot of the people there.  Many were congratulatory and asking the common questions: when are you due, are you having morning sickness yet, and are you going to find out the sex.  DH and I both have been programmed to answer the questions: Jan 23, YES and YES.  Then we get another common question that I hate (b/c I guess I associate it with being stereotyped)...are you gonig to have ____ (fill in the blank with football team, basketball team, baseball team...) or is there "just" one?  I can only assume we get asked this question b/c of the IVF and when we tell them it's "just" 1...they almost seem upset.  Like, man you went through "all" that and you are "only" having 1?  Look people...after 4 years of trying...and a year of being a pin cushion...ONLY having JUST 1 is just right for us!  THEN...I've said this before...I'm not thinking I like the whole rubbing of the belly thing...but, at least 4 people rubbed my bump yesterday.  It's so nice everyone is excited for us...I know.  But I've never been one to want to rub someone's belly...it's like a privacy thing or something...Oh well...guess I'm just going to have to get used to it...all...I guess. 

Re: Just going to have to get used to it...

  • It all gets old fast, I was going to buy one of the t-shirts they sell on cafe press that answers all the questions. What is funny though is that now that he is here there is a brand new list of questions people ask. It is never a "how you doing" any more, it is a hows Dillon, how old, is he teething, crawling, eating, weighing, does he have a job yet...blah. 

    As for the twin comment - I really do not think it is just because of the stereotype, more of peoples imaginations running wild. A lot of customers at my work, who did not know about my IVF would ask "is there just one" and I would get the are you sure, oh really - maybe one is hiding blah blah responses. I think it is the romanticizing of multiple thing going on - if that makes sense?

    And belly rubbing - stop them now. I would politely say as they were going in for the kill "you don't want to feel my bloat, it really isn't all that exciting" or "Once he kicks there may be something to feel but right now, I got nothing for you - I will let you know". That usually stopped them.  

    A lot of years and a million tears finally led me to you.
    After 7 years trying to concieve, 3 failed IUIs and 2 failed IVFs, my third IVF was a success!
    My Christmas baby turned into a turkey bird! Dillon Richard was born at 34 weeks, 5 days on November 28, 2009 after 10 weeks on bedrest for preeclampsia.
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  • The thing I try to remember is each person is different- they haven't been standing there listening to you answer the same questions over and over! The early belly rubs got to me also... now I like them! :-)
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  • That is annoying - but better than the question:  when are you guys going to have kids??

    I have been asked 987,644 times if twins run in my family.  Were you guys planning this?  Were you upset when they told you it was twins?

     

    DX: PCOS * Success with IVF

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