Finally wrote Abbey's birth story (stillborn) (warning - pic of my kiddos in my sig)

PianoPlayingSarah

Hi - My first baby girl was stillborn at almost 41 weeks.  She would have (should have) turned four years old on June 4th. I have found myself coming over to this board (and lurking) more and more the past few weeks.  I feel like you all understand.  We all had babies - they just aren't here on earth.  I just wish that everyone else could understand this.

Here is a link to Abbey's birth story. 

https://thegreatumbrellaheist.blogspot.com/2010/06/abbeys-story.html

Here is another post that I wrote regarding stillbirth

https://thegreatumbrellaheist.blogspot.com/2010/06/what-no-parent-should-ever-have-to-live.html

Please note that I mainly write about my girls in my blog - if you should happen to click out of those posts.  I don't want to upset anyone. 

  

 

 

magdalina.h

Thank you for sharing your story. While I don't want to be in this pain in 4 years it's nice to know that even 4 years later you are still grieving her. I know that sounds weird since we all say that we'll grieve our babies for the rest of our lives, but I don't know it's just nice to know.

I'm sorry for your loss and your triplets are beautiful

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Your triplets are amazingly beautiful!

emeraudecephiro

Thanks for sharing your story, and your gorgeous daughters! Seeing them gives me hope.

jerriesgirl

Thanks for sharing your story.  Your daughters are cuties.

betizzle73

Thank you so much for sharing your story. Your triplets are beautiful, and I'm sure Abbey was too. . I also agree with Magdalina - One of our biggest fears, it seems like, is that we will forget our first babies once we go on to have more. It's really nice to know that four years later, even with three little girls to keep you busy, you still think of Abbey often. Thanks again for sharing.

SWine789

Thank you for sharing  your story. 

On a lighter note: Your daughters are so beautiful!  

Shayna0182

I had tears in my eyes while reading your post.  Thank you for sharing your story! Your little girls are dolls!

eawebster

betizzle73:

Thank you so much for sharing your story. Your triplets are beautiful, and I'm sure Abbey was too. . I also agree with Magdalina - One of our biggest fears, it seems like, is that we will forget our first babies once we go on to have more. It's really nice to know that four years later, even with three little girls to keep you busy, you still think of Abbey often. Thanks again for sharing.

I couldn't have said this better myself Betsy! And thank you thank you thank you for sharing your story, and giving me hope. Your daughters are just dolls!

damabo80

Thank you so much for sharing your beautiful family with us. I am so sorry for your loss.

Interestingly enough, a guy who lived on my dorm floor freshmen year was part of an identical triplet set (the first set I've ever encountered). One of his brothers also had a NTD.

I never knew much about NTDs until my son was dx with one. Now I feel like I have an honorary NTD doctorate from Google. I'm sure you feel the same way. Hugs.  

CashewsMommy

Thanks for sharing your story with us! You said "It's easy for me to look back now, after the fact, and turn everything into a warning sign that I missed." And there have been so many warning signs that I missed. I only wish i had known.

bgarson

Thank you so much for sharing your story. I really like when you said that people need to realize that a baby slowing down isn't normal. You are right, babies don't slow down.

PianoPlayingSarah

Thank you all for your comments.  Grief stays with you over the years - it changes - but it is always there.

And everyone deserves hope.

Lorange-8

Thank you so much for sharing your sorry, it is beautiful just like your little girls!!! I love the pictures of them.

millejj1

Thanks for sharing your story! Your girls are precious!!

mom2anangel

Everything is blocked here at work but I wanted to reply - next Tuesday will be the 3 year anniversary of the day I delivered my stillborn son and I have been coming back to this board more and more recently.  Since losing him I have had a beautiful daughter and am expecting again.  It's been quite a road and when I think back to those early days, weeks and months I NEVER thought I could be happy again or think of my son without crying.  But, here I am...almost 3 years later and not a day goes by that I don't think of my son or talk about him or relive the time surrounding his diagnosis and birth...but I can do it without crying and with out such terrible pain.  It took time and LOTS of reading, talking to friends and family and mostly my husband.  We also still attend a monthly support group (most of the time) and that has been very helpful for us - we go now more to support new members as that was so helpful to us when we started going.  I will check out your post from home so I can read Abbey's birth story and check out your blog. 

Thanks in advance for sharing.  I agree that it would be nice if people could recognize that our babies matter!