Birth announcements: yay or nay at this point?

Dr.Loretta

We were holding off on birth announcements until TPR was complete. TPR is a done deal for the BM, but the BF wants nothing to do with the situation and is letting it go to court for TPR. Which at this rate will be next month, when DD is 4 months old.

We sent announcements via e-mail to everyone I had e-addresses for, but there are several other friends, etc. who knew we were adopting but don't know we got placed.

At this point, do I still send out announcements, or just send a note with Christmas cards?

CaptainSerious

I think it's entirely up to you.  I don't think there's any rule of thumb that really applies.

After we bring M home and things have settled down, I'd like to do a photo session and adoption announcements.  I understand that this could be almost a year after he's home, but I can't wait to send a picture of him to everyone and let them know how proud we are to claim him as our son.

firefightersgal

I think it would be okay to send them now, if you really wanted to.  I didn't get my DD's announcements sent until she was 3 months old, just by my own laziness.  LOL.

mrscoley

I plan on sending out announcements after all three of ours are adopted. We are waiting for when our little boy is legal, but by that time our children will be 3, 2, and 1!!! It's not going to stop me from announcing to the world =]

MyColonyNJ

i would totally send them now.  Like you said, the birth father wants nothing to do with the situation, and if he is just lettting it go to the court, then tpr will be done. 

I think you should announce it to the world

amberfernandez

We have the same situation.  Our TPR waiting period is up on Monday for the BM and BF, but there is a "legal father" because technically she never divorced her first husband, and like your's he wants nothing to do with this, so his rights will be terminated in courts, who knows how many months from now. 

We are going to go ahead and order the announcements on Monday, since the "legal father" TPR is pretty much a done deal in court.  She'll be one-month on Monday, so she's still pretty young.

You can always go ahead and send them, then use a different pic for the Xmas cards.

silliestbunny

Send them!!  People love getting mail, good news, photos....so the announcement will be a little gift to everyone that receives it.  No one shoudl stop and wonder about the timing

Art Teacher

We sent them out after TPR was signed - that was when Zoe was a month old.  I say, if you want to send them, send them -- it's nice to celebrate again!

scottdeb

Art Teacher:

We sent them out after TPR was signed - that was when Zoe was a month old.  I say, if you want to send them, send them -- it's nice to celebrate again!

Ok showing my "newbie-ness" again...what is a TPR? Thanks guys  

 

GLynn2009

We sent out announcements a month after DD came home in October but before it was finalized on 4/1/2010. I did not want to show up at family things and people wonder who DD was.

Do whatever you want I do not think that there is a rule.

Dr.Loretta

scottdeb:

Ok showing my "newbie-ness" again...what is a TPR? Thanks guys  

 

TPR=termination of parental rights

I know there isn't a rule, I just wasn't sure if it would be weird for people to get announcements 4 months out. But like many of you said, it's a celebration, so why not spread the love?

mcmann05

I know if it were me personally, I would still do it. And as a friend I'd love to see your happiness before Christmas which is quite some time off! :-)

PhiPrincess

I say go for it! 

crystalpopcorn

Send them if you want to send them! It is never to late.  If you feel like it is too late though, you could just send an adoption announcement after finalization.  Just a thought!