Over-stressing?

lual

Hi,

I wasn't sure where to post but I need some advice!

I gave birth to my twins 2 days ago and have just come home, My two older boys visited in hospital and were both very excited before they were born but my eldest-who I adopted over 4 years ago has suddenly, today, become very quiet and uninterested-I don't know if i'm over protective and over stressing but he coped so well and loved it when DS #2 was born. Not sure if it's bc there's 2 more of them. DS #1 and DS#2 are very close as brothers but DS#1 is acting out and not being himself. I'm really worried he's feeling insecure. Any advice would be really helpful!

Dr.Loretta

Considering you just came home with twins, I'm surprised both of your older kids aren't thrown off-kilter a bit. I can imagine it's quite the change to have mommy's time taken up by not one new person but two.

I am the oldest in my family, and my mom overprepared me for my brother, so I was like a second caretaker for him. When my baby brother came along, the middle child started having issues that took a while for him to work on, and he still has some middle child syndrome going on (he's almost 40 . I don't think it necessarily has to do with adoption, it may be more of getting used to the new reality.

I don't know of any resources offhand, but I'm sure there are some internet resources on helping older children adjust to younger siblings.