You and Dh, how often do you have quality time?

Sxia

My husband and I just don't. One of us is almost always running after the kids. Once a week we go to a friend's house for dinner, and I feel like I'm finally getting a break from the kids and he feels like he's finally getting a break from work and doesn't want to do diaper duty, etc, so of course I get stuck doing it. (Although I've been doing it all day.)

Our friends took the kids to Chuck E Cheese last Sunday and I laid in his lap and we watched a movie together. It was nice, even though we were completely exhausted. This is a man I married because we had fun together. He was my best friend and we were always together. Something has changed now. We take turns tucking the kids in. I'm a night owl, he's a morning person. I check on the kids in the middle of the night, he'll get up with the baby at 5:00 am. We're a team, but he's offense and I'm defense and we never play together anymore.

 Anyone else? Or are you all completely happy wives and mommies? Advise?

veloelle

We aren't together often enough. We haven't had a date night in 8 weeks. No, I'm not happy only being a mom. I need to be a wife and friend. I'm going to try and to a date day on Sunday.

hikerbeth

We are really insistent on getting the kids down at the same time so we can have a couple of hours together each night.  It doesn't always work perfectly, but that's the goal.

Zenya

we just implemented a no internet/minimal TV rule @ night.  It was DH's suggestion and I kind of balked internally but went with it and it's been good.  It means that I am 'on' all day (which is why I balked) but it also means that I go to bed earlier... sleep more and so am more able to be on all day.  And I feel closer to him and generally more satisfied. 

I do watch TV/am online if he's out at night (he goes to the gym.. goes to bed earlier than me and sometimes is out w/friends) but the goal right now is minimal passive TV watching/internet at night.  We'll see  

cbidt*sgirl

I feel like I never have quality time with dh. I'm not happy about it but I'm too darn tired to do anything about it. I have a hard time letting go and letting other chores or kid stuff slide in order to have a date. Even when both my kids are sleeping at night i still feel like Mama cuz I'm pumping in order for ds to have enough milk for school days of I'm cleaning dishes etc

LuvinMyKids

We get a date night about once a month, give or take.  We would love more but time & money just don't allow currently.  We have definitely lost "us" in the midst of being parents to 4 kids. I just feel like a mom these days.  I am not happy with it, although I know it's not forever that we will have demanding young children.   We are actually seeing a marriage counselor in a couple of weeks to learn how to re-find one-another and work on reclaiming our friendship & marriage.  I miss being a wife & best friend to DH and he feels the same way.  I am hoping the counseling can teach us some good tools!