I sometimes wonder about bump/fb friends

BostonGayGal

Even though I know my settings, I just worry.  I feel rude ignoring Bump friend requests but I often do just because I don't know the person.   I trust most are good people, but it is hard to know who I want to allow another onion ring closer to my irl world.

How do you decide who you accept as a fb friend? 

*Edited title because Bump was slow and didn't post this right above the post I was hoping it would. 

Que*Sera*Sera

If I have had regular contact with them or speak with them outside botb, then I will likely accept. Otherwise, I don't.

idavis

I allowed the people that I felt some sort of connection with. The ones that were "regulars" to me, and those who I've  had actualy personal conversations on the board or through PM.

giaM28

ITA. i usually only will accept people that i *think* i really know here. i only have a handful of BOTBrs on FB anyway

akalutts

Now? I only accept or ask BOTBers if we actually "talk" on the board. Initially I added a bunch, and found that we didn't have as much in common as I'd thought, so I limited what they can see on my fb or outright removed.

There are still some ladies I would love to add, but know they limit their Bump/FB mingling. I can respect that. However, if they requested me I'd say yes.

As for IRL people, I started to limit a while ago. I don't need my boss, or most of my co-workers to know that I sunburnt my ass at the tanning beds, (or whatever other mischief I might get into.)

WaitingOnTwoPinkLines

Except for BOTBers and a few others, I'm only friends with people I know IRL. I have several BOTB regs on my FB. If it's anyone I feel sketchy about or who isn't a reg, I won't request them or accept them, whatever the case may be. 

krate24

Que*Sera*Sera:

If I have had regular contact with them or speak with them outside botb, then I will likely accept. Otherwise, I don't.

If I had BOTB friend requests on FB, I would treat it like this.  However, I am only friends with one person from BOTB, so I don't think the requests are going to be pouring in.

andrew's wifey

I tend not to request friends from BOTB on FB, but if someone requests me, and I feel like I've seen a good bit of them here, and that they are honest people from what I can tell and not crazy, then I generally accept them.

I feel weird inviting people to be my friend though, only because I know I'm not one of the cool kids. 

bronc09

But see, do you REALLY know I'm not a reg? How do you know if I'm not your "bump BFF" and just happend to go BSC through my AE? Bronc could have been a whole different life that I made up.

You never know...

 

*hint* I do know quite a few of you through here

mmkaye

I only add people that I talk with on the board pretty regularly.  If I someone requests me and I don't feel comfortable with them, I won't add them.

angiegail78

I don't have any BOTB friends but I would probably add anyone who I'd previously interacted with or who I liked through their posts. 

I think that more than likely I would be the one doing the requesting rather than vice versa though.

Lambie.

I only have a handful of botb fb friends, and I feel secure in who they are. At this point I probably wouldn't add anyone else except maybe Ohzy, but that is because we text.

RachelG83

I had more but trimmed my list down a little a few months ago because I felt like we didn't "talk" much (here or there).  I just looked at it again and there are only a couple I'd consider taking off right now.  Most of the ones I have on my list now have been around forever.

wils0482

andrew's wifey:

I tend not to request friends from BOTB on FB, but if someone requests me, and I feel like I've seen a good bit of them here, and that they are honest people from what I can tell and not crazy, then I generally accept them.

I feel weird inviting people to be my friend though, only because I know I'm not one of the cool kids. 

 This, exactly. 

Emie28

I don't have any BOTB fb friends. I only add IRL people that I talk to on a pretty regular basis. I don't feel comfortable adding someone that I haven't met in real life. Really, even if they are a "regular" you don't really know them. Just look at some of the people who have turned out to be BSC.

joanithegreat

I would never send a friend invite, but I used to think that if someone on BOTB wanted to friend me I probably would accept.  Now I am not so sure.