Donating our embryos

marcuej

Ugh...this is harder to do than I thought it would be.  I just signed the paperwork to donate all 5 of our blasts to stem cell research.  I feel very good about the decison we made, it's just hitting me harder than I thought it would.  It's a weird thing to have to do and one most people will never even think about.  We're pretty sure #2 is it for us.  We just can't justify continuing to pay the storage fees when in all reality we would probably never use them.  I like the idea that my little embies may help save another child's life!!  But...I'm definitely having a moment I didn't expect. 

GenRN45

you're doing a very generous thing, and I really respect you for it.

Would you feel better about it if you waited until after your baby was born?

rockvillebride

I cried several times when donating our embryos. You're not alone - hugs!

Christakim

I can't imagine how you feel, that's gotta be a tough thing to do.

I agree with Gen...would you consider waiting till a month or two after number 2 is born?

alison43

Ugh, that's a hard decision to make and I bet it's an emotional one too!  But yea for you donating to science.  That's what we would do too, I think.

sakidavi

I can almost understand this. We had a blessing in disguise, with only having one perfect embryo, and it took. But I often though about how I would feel if we did have many, and we weren't going to use them. I think you're doing an awesome thing though!

JGirl2005

that's awesome and very hard to do - It would be hard to be in your shoes.

marcuej

Christakim:

I can't imagine how you feel, that's gotta be a tough thing to do.

I agree with Gen...would you consider waiting till a month or two after number 2 is born?

Unfortunately, we have to decide now or wait until January.  They only do it twice a year and we could really use that money for the new baby instead of storage. 

EastCoastBride

I will eventually (in the next 6 - 12 months) be doing the same thing.  We're paying to have them stored right now.  Once I get to a place where I can really, truly say "one and done", I'm wiling to pay the money.  But at some point, I need to use that money elsewhere. 

 

Mouseygail

Hugs!!!  I think it is a great thing to do, but I can only imagine how tough the final decision is!! 

manda429

I'm in the same boat. Our bill should be coming any day.  I didn't know there was an option to donate to science.  Still, I don't know what I am going to do.  Paying that renewal fee will suck, but I'm not ready yet to make the decision.

SeaSoul

I think it's wonderful and admirable that you're doing this.  I can certainly understand the mixed emotions you're going through!

LisaandBryan

ITs a tough decision. We have 7 frozne and plan on doing an FET next year.  If it works and we have others left , I plan on donating them to another couple.  I am not comfortable with the idea of having them destroyed at all.

gringa78

SeaSoul:

I think it's wonderful and admirable that you're doing this.  I can certainly understand the mixed emotions you're going through!

This.  

oct11bride03

I think you made a great decision! But I can imagine it's difficult to think of your embies that way. ((HUGS))

roaringrock

(((giant hug)))

what a very difficult decision to make but you are doing an AMAZING thing. dh has worked with stem cells and there is soooooo much potential for future medical treatment. bravo mama!

LucyPevensie

Thank you for your contributions to medicine and science - that could lead to cures for terrible diseases that could afflict any of us .. our kids .. our grandkids.  You are doing a great thing.  Thank you again. 

marcuej

Gosh...thanks everyone!  You all made me feel even that much better about our decision.  Glad I have you guys!