Am I wasting my time to try a FET again?

shegak

After one failed fresh IVF and one successful fresh IVF that resulted in the pregnancy then miscarriage of my identical twins at 11 weeks, I just did my first FET in May.  I transferred 2 great looking blasts.  I got a BFP but learned at 5 weeks that the pregnancy was not viable and I miscarried this past week.  

My RE gave me the choice of either trying a fresh cycle or using my remaining 3 embryos to try another FET.  I'm so torn.  I'm so disheartened, frustrated and disappointed, and I after all I've been through this past year, I'm feeling very down.... I don't have much faith left.

RE said obviously a fresh cycle would up my chances of success a bit, but a frozen cycle would be much easier on my body (I hyperstimmed during my 2nd fresh IVF) and I could actually enjoy my summer a little bit more.  He also said my success rate would still be pretty good (although less than that of a fresh cycle) even though I just miscarried from the same batch of frozen embryos.  We'd be transferring 2 blasts again, as long as they survive the thaw.

Am I wasting my time if I choose to do another FET?  Is there anyone who didn't have success on a first FET but did on a subsequent one?  I'm just so physically and emotionally drained....  I want to hope so much that it could work, but I really feel hopeless right now.  

tnkrbl21

I am so sorry for your losses.  I'm not sure what to do.  I think I would do another FET bc if it does work, then that's terrific of course and if not, then you didn't hyperstim and you didnt have to be at the RE almost every morning.  Like you said it would be easier on you.  Good luck with whatever you choose. 

MonkeysGirl05

I'm so sorry for your losses. There are never easy answers to what will work or not; it's out of our hands. Did any of your docs have any potential causes to your m/c's? I'd want to know that before I could decide to do a fresh or frozen cycle. Without knowing why, my first instinct would be to go ahead and do a FET. Like you said, you'd be able to enjoy your summer more, etc. Sometimes being in the right frame of mind and putting less stress on your body is just what is needed and might actually help you achieve success.

shegak

Thank you so much....

The loss of our identical twins was most likely a chromosomal problem due to the splitting of the embryo.  So basically, both babies shared the same genes and something didn't carry over to each baby when the split occurred.  Not good, but at least it's not a chromosomal issue with my husband or myself. 

The 2nd loss threw me off.... but RE said he's not worried about genetic/chromosomal problems with us at this point because truly this is our first miscarriage that doesn't have an "explanation".  He thinks it's just been bad luck for us, and that I fell into the category of "1 in every 3 pregnancies ends in miscarriage"- me being the 1 of 3.  We do have 4 1/2 year old fraternal twins that are a result of my first infertility struggle, so I know that luckily we can have healthy kids.  Hopefully he's right and genetics aren't playing a factor in the m/c's.  

 I'm leaning towards the FET again, because I know that right now I can't handle an entire fresh cycle that would eat up the summer I've been looking forward to for so long.... I need to enjoy life right now and it would be consumed by needles/monitoring appts/etc... if I did a fresh cycle.  But I'm just hoping for some FET reassurance that it CAN work.... I've heard success stories but I'm still so skeptical.  I know I'm just jaded right now...

mrsolsenk12

I would go for the FET. As you said they are so much easier on your body and you an enjoy your summer with your twins. Based on what you said, I would not think it is a genetic issue (since the identical twins was chromosonal) and that you would stand a decent chance of success with another FET. GL! I am so sorry for you losses. That is just not fair to have to deal with.

LisaandBryan

I would defiiltey go with the FET. Sounds like you have a good shot.