SAHMs - evening/weekend routine with husband?

lnle

If you take care of your babies all day, how much does your husband take care of them in the evenings and on weekends? We tend to divide things 50/50 when he's not at work, and sometimes I wish it was more like 75/25. I love taking care of my babies, but I need more breaks sometimes!

Just wondering how you ladies work it out.

kimarino13

It was 50/50 when I was off work, but I did have about an hour or two each weekend to run to Target, BRU or the grocery store alone.

crystalgirl

We are probably 75/25 during the week when DH is home (i.e. mornings and evenings) and more like 60/40 on the weekends unless DH needs to work extra.

jenber77

Um, it's still all me. I mean, I can go shopping or whatever and leave DS with DH (but I rarely do), but when we're both at home, it's all me.

RoxBride

50/ 50 when he's home.  Usually we are all in it together, and stick together, so really no difference.

JustaKidAtHeart

evenings DH gets home at 6ish and the boys are in bed by 8.  So he plays with them while I finish dinner, we eat together, DH does bath while I get everything ready in their room, then we get them in bed together, I leave the room and DH reads them a story (Then DH does the dishes).

On the weekends most the time he lets me sleep in 2 of the days (he is on 4 10s so he always has 3 day weekends).  I let him sleep in the 3rd day.  We tend to spend the daytime as a family but if I say I need a break he gives it to me.  

lolalillie

Lately, it has been all me. DH plays with DS a little bit before bed but I do everything else (including trying to pack our whole house right now). I wish when he got home it would be 50/50. Once we move, I hope we can move more towards 50/50 but his job will be demanding so I doubt it. I love my kids but by the end of the day, I am about to fall over.

alison43

I'm kinda half-time SAHM since I work 3 days a week and DH usually works the days I'm off....but since he doesn't get home till 7:30 or 8, all he can do is give Avery her bottle and put her down for bed.

On the days I work till 7:30 or 8 and he's alone with her all day, I take care of her bottle and bed.

 

krissyh21

Dad takes over when he gets home from work. There is about an hour, if that, before DS bedtime so H will play with him and do his bedtime routine as I cook and clean up. Then Sunday is "daddy day", my day of rest. He takes LO out and then his parents house. It is great to have that alone time.

I do work 3 night a week, but it is after DS is in bed, so I still consider myself pretty much SAH.  

Smudges*Mom

We are still working on this. . .

I am used to doing it all.  DH wants to relax when he's off from work.  I hate to ask for help and feel guilty when I do. . . .

It is a difficult balance to find and I can see how it would be even more so with three babies.  You both want a break from your job--be that a job in or outside of the home.  

Good luck finding that "sweet spot". 

browneyedgrl4282

I basically do it all!!!!!!!! DH won't do anything with the baby but if the twins wake up (which never happens) in the middle of the night he will take them and sleep in the spare room! Other than that he does take Preston out to the store with him but otherwise it is all me

laura&dan05

Well our situation is different because DH is out of town Monday - Thursday so I don't get any breaks unless I go to my parents house for a few hours or they take Hannah for awhile. It's much different for us too because we only have 1 baby and you have 3 (today is the longest week ever because my parents are out of town too)!

DH works from home on Friday so by the time he gets done with work there is only about an hour left in the evening where dd is awake and is here Saturday and Sunday.  He usually gets up with dd on the weekends and cooks breakfast while I sleep in.  He hangs out with her all day and plays with her but I'm there too because we're spending "family time" together since we don't have a chance to do that during the week. DH does bath time with dd and her bed time routine in the evening. I don't know that there is a % that we split taking care of her given our situation. 

mechanicsgirl

We're about 50/50.  He comes home and plays with her while I cook dinner/do dishes/laundry, we eat dinner, and play together until bedtime.  He gives DD a bath at night, and puts her down.  He takes the first wake up on nights he's not working, and I take the second.  When it comes to chores on his day off, I usually do them so i can get a little break from DD.

dana316

Honestly, DH does most of the baby related stuff anytime he can.  He works crazy hours, and he misses her like crazy when he's not here. 

We also have farm chores to take care of, so that takes up a lot of time too.  For instance he is off this weekend, but we have bushhogging to do and we need to fence in about 15 acres.  Obviously, that takes some time...time he will be outside and Caroline won't.  It sucks, cause he wants to be with her, but can't. 

On a normal day, when he works 12 hour day shifts, he comes home, eats supper, then gives her a bath and puts her to bed while I feed the horses.  T

He also gets up with me in the middle of the night, and puts her back to sleep after I nurse her. 

 

MayDayGirl

well we are in a much different boat than you, one child and my husband works 80+ hours a week, so when he comes home it's more like 80/20 but I'm the 80. I don't get a ton of breaks.

navyandviolet

In the evenings it is really 50/50, although he will take all the responsiblities if I have just had it.  And with a 2 and a 1/2 year old some days I am done. He does do bath time with her which is a break for a half hour or so. On the weekends we both get our breaks but I tend to think he gets more breaks becuase he golfs atleast once a weekend if not more which can take 5-6 hours depending on how far away the course is...and then he is tired afterwards, and so on. 

Magoy

jenber77:

Um, it's still all me. I mean, I can go shopping or whatever and leave DS with DH (but I rarely do), but when we're both at home, it's all me.

This.  

LisaandBryan

I feel like he doens't do as much as I do but I know he tries to help out as much as he can.  It's tough though cause he works long days too and we both need time to unwind and get breaks.  It can be tough to find a good balance.

kittylove

I think it is about 60/40 when he is off. In the evenings I have been known to go into our room and shut the door. That is kind of my hint that I am DONE and need a break. That said the 60-40 is purely child care not house hold work because DH can't watch Riley and do house work unless Riley is playing perfectly by himself. ((rolling eyes))

Amy720

I'm a stay at home mom during the summer and my husband helps out when he's not working to 50/50, but when I've been home all day I just stay up later at night to get a little time to myself.