F/U to post about LO screaming with his dad (LONG)

datan

So, last week I wrote about DS crying after DH picked him up from my IL's after work.  As soon as they got home and DS woke up from his car nap, he started crying.  DH couldn't do anything to get him to stop.  Rocking, feeding, checked dipe, singing, dancing, bath, etc.  He could not get DS to stop crying.  As soon as I walked in the door and DS saw me, he calmed down.  As soon as I picked him up, he started smiling. 

 Last night, the same thing happened except this time, I didn't come home for about an hour after DH got home.  So, poor kid was screaming (and really screaming, I heard him through the phone) for about 45 minutes.  He wouldn't take a bottle, he couldn't be calmed by anything DH would do.  DH put him down in his crib to see if he was just overtired.  He would go in every 10 minutes or so to try to soothe him, but DH said that when he would go in, DS would get even more upset!  Eventually, he found his thumb and fell asleep.  When I finally got home, I woke him up to change and nurse him.  He was happy and sweet and fell asleep in my arms.

 Tonight, DH went to pick our son up from our IL's.  My MIL said he had a great day, was happy, etc (that's the thing, DS is usually very happy and easy).  As soon as DH picked him up, he started screaming again.  He handed him to my MIL, and... he stopped crying.  So, this is clearly not an overtired, hungry, etc thing.  It really seems to be that DS is afraid of DH. 

 DH is really good with our son.  He's very patient, very nurturing, fun, etc.  This all started, though, after DH was cutting DS's nails last week and accidentally clipped his skin (ouch).  DS was fine, but obviously painful and there was some bleeding.  But, he was fine after that and seemed okay with my husband after that, too.  But, I wonder if that's what scared him?  Any suggestions on what to do about this?  I feel horrible for both of them.  Thanks

LQQKatmyBQQBs

My Cornelius does the same thing when I get home.  He fusses for "Dad", but then takes one look at me and his eyes get super big and he starts looking hungry.  He never makes eye contact, but at least he stops crying.  Has your husband tried nursing him?  I would tell your DH not to clip his skin anymore.  Babies don't like that.  HTH!

amt1586

Could be the clipped skin, or has your DH changed cologne? Is there something that he has changed since DS was born that might irritate him? DD would scream when she went to my dad until we figured out that it was some smell from his work that was bothering her...after he showered she was just as happy as she could be with him...whatever it is, good luck!! I hope it gets fixed fast!

PurpleK26

wow... poor guys... both of them!

The only thing I can think to help would be if you and DH both cuddle him together at the same time. So he feels safe and secure with both of you being there. Maybe lay him in bed between you and both cuddle and sing and talk to him etc.

Other than that... does YH do outdoor work and might be getting scratchy hands now that its summer? My DH gets rougher hands in the summer from and increase in work at his job.. Or it could be a different smell on your DH than LO is used to? I don't know, I'm just trying to think of anything that it might be!