Possible flame worthy vent

fauxshelley

My youngest nephew's bday party is on June 26.  He will be 2.  He is adorable and I look forward to seeing him.  I love my brother and his family, sure.  I LIKE my brother and 2 of his kids.  The oldest nephew drives me bonkers (remember when he tried to kill my dog?), and my SIL I can take or leave. 

I HATE the way they throw parties.  They invite everyone to their tiny house, her huge family (she has 7 brothers), my family, a crap ton of kids.   We all have to be there at 1:00 in the afternoon (they live an hour away), and there will be no food.  She will have a small cake and maybe a bottle of juice for the kids.  WHO DOES THIS?  There will be no place to sit, bc my SIL loves to give/throw away shiit when she gets tired of it, like her living room furniture. 

 GAH!!  Can't I just send a gift and stay home? 

 

redheadedgirl

fauxshelley:

 GAH!!  Can't I just send a gift and stay home? 

Yes!!! Really with all those folks there having one of your LO's come down with a well timed cold/pink eye - is really just looking out for the rest of the kids who will be there. 

pahokie

"Jackson brought a cold home from day care and I don't want to expose all those children."

If you would like to visit at a less congested time, suggest that - "Can I drop off Nephew's gift next weekend?" If not, just put something in the mail.

stever

Not remotely flameworthy. Sounds terrible.

YaraC

fauxshelley:

 GAH!!  Can't I just send a gift and stay home? 

 

 

Yes, you can! Babies make fantastic excuses to get out of things. 

superaunt

YaraC:

fauxshelley:

 GAH!!  Can't I just send a gift and stay home? 

 

 

Yes, you can! Babies make fantastic excuses to get out of things. 

 

Daisiesinmygarden

pahokie:

"Jackson brought a cold home from day care and I don't want to expose all those children."

If you would like to visit at a less congested time, suggest that - "Can I drop off Nephew's gift next weekend?" If not, just put something in the mail.

THIS!

No flames here. That "party" sounds like a PITA! I take it she isn't receptive to party planning help....

mama.bear

Flameworthy? Not a chance!

Your nephew reminds me of Sid from Toy Story.

Drop the present at the door and run....lol

KD288

Wow! Yep I would be making an excuse that is for sure.

Or if I REALLY felt obligated I would do the bring the chair thing. But most likely I would make an excuse!

vanverth

fauxshelley:

My youngest nephew's bday party is on June 26.  He will be 2.  He is adorable and I look forward to seeing him.  I love my brother and his family, sure.  I LIKE my brother and 2 of his kids.  The oldest nephew drives me bonkers (remember when he tried to kill my dog?), and my SIL I can take or leave. 

I HATE the way they throw parties.  They invite everyone to their tiny house, her huge family (she has 7 brothers), my family, a crap ton of kids.   We all have to be there at 1:00 in the afternoon (they live an hour away), and there will be no food.  She will have a small cake and maybe a bottle of juice for the kids.  WHO DOES THIS?  There will be no place to sit, bc my SIL loves to give/throw away shiit when she gets tired of it, like her living room furniture. 

 GAH!!  Can't I just send a gift and stay home? 

 

Your SIL sounds like a cheap nutcase.  Who gives away living room furniture with nothing to replace it?  And no food.  If she can not afford to throw a party, she could have a party with the theme of a bring a thing.  "We will supply the cake, papergoods, grill and charcol, everyone please bring a covered dish as part of your present to our son."  Woman needs to think and plan ahead.

nisems

Not flameworthy AT ALL.  I like the previous suggestions of sick babies and gifts in the mail.....

But this is from the girl that is so over family "obligations" that I'm considering moving to a remote village in Alaska.

robynlesley

While I have to admit, I hate schlepping to my nephews' and nieces' parties?more so now, with Aaron, since he gets overstimulated?my in-laws always have chairs and food.

I agree with everyone else about your SIL and I'd not go.

M.Amy

That is tough because I am sure you would enjoy seeing some of the family and show off your beautiful kids but it sounds like a PITA

dianah36

Who has a party and doesn't provide food? That doesn't sound like a party to me!!!

Peppernut

pahokie:

"Jackson brought a cold home from day care and I don't want to expose all those children."

If you would like to visit at a less congested time, suggest that - "Can I drop off Nephew's gift next weekend?" If not, just put something in the mail.

 TOTALLY this.  Great idea. 

NewMrs07

pahokie:

"Jackson brought a cold home from day care and I don't want to expose all those children."

If you would like to visit at a less congested time, suggest that - "Can I drop off Nephew's gift next weekend?" If not, just put something in the mail.

 

This, hands down! I'm sooo over going places I don't really want to go. Having a baby gives you a great excuse for  getting out of stuff like that... use it!

livvielo

Love everyone's ideas. You could also bring a bag lunch and the folding chair to send a message.

rsd12

I kind of disagree with everyone. 

While it is not something I would do - if we have a party we always include food - even if it is just homemade pizza (like we did for my son's 3rd birthday). 

But a 1pm party should really just include cake & drinks.  Why should they have to feed you? I have been to plenty of parties that just include cake & drinks/  Honestly my kids would not make it until 1pm to eat lunch so they would have already eaten...  isn't the party for a 2 year old anyway?

We always host smallish birthday parties at our house & room is tight.  Where else are we going to go?  Hopefully it will be nice out so you guys can be outside.  I have 2 winter babies too.. so I am just hoping the little guy will have nice weather so we can be outside for his 1st birthday in September - so everyone does not have to be crammed into our small house! 

Piranha54

I'd probably tend towards the not going, especially with an hour drive each way.  If you suggest meeting at a later date, is there someplace fun for the kids halfway?  

Kandie35

Nope, I wouldn't go. I would set up a time to visit at a later date. Two hours total in the car to be miserable does not sound like a positive experience for you OR H & J. I also agree that it is common courtesy to have food and adequate beverages when hosting a party so it does not feel like "hey, come over and give my kid free stuff". I do not even know what to think about the lack of furniture... uhm, meds?!!!!!!!

fiazo

If you have to drive an hour, the least they could do is feed you. Does not sound like a good time. Make an excuse.