XP: Am I crazy?

preheatedoven

To even be considering this....

DH has a job opportunity, its 2 hrs away. Its his dream job. Problem is that there is a 3 month probationary period. I have the most secure job in the world that I would not leave until that is up. 

So, we are thinking that he might rent something for a few months, come home on the weekends and essentially leave me with both babies during the week. I am sure we have friends/family that could help here and there, but nothing full time. And we don't have the money to hire any help. 

The bonus is that if the job works out and we can sell our house we could easily live on one income (maybe 1.5) and I would be able to be at least a partial SAHM. 

The three months would suck, but it would be worth it, no? Or am I just crazy to think I could be a 'single' mom of twins for that long? 

MamaCrystal

I don't think it's crazy to consider if it would get your whole family to a point that you'd prefer to be at.  The 3 months would be difficult, but at least there would be an end in sight and an outcome that you both want.  The part I'd be most concerned with is selling your house!

jenn_darrin1515

I don't think it is crazy...it sounds like it will be a great situation for your family...the 3 months will be a little tough...but like the other poster said - with an end in sight anything is doable...and if you have family/friends that can help out 1-2 nights a week with your LOs so you can get house stuff done you'll be golden...I say go for it...and 2 hours isn't so far that if you really needed him home for a night he could make the trek...GL!

SoldiersGreenBean

DH is accepting a job today that has a 2 hr one way commute.

I definitely don't think you're crazy!  If it means better opportunities for you in the future, then I think it is so worth it.

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3 months is nothing if you are talking about bettering your whole family situation - and Dh having his dream job, too.

many moms do it wihtout dad around for 3mo+, be it from work travel, military, or just being a single mom. You can certainly do it!

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forgot to mention- many people in the area I live in drive 2 hours each way to/from work- so it might be a lot cheaper for him to just make the commute and have HIM have it suck for 3 months

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Goldie_Locks_5:

forgot to mention- many people in the area I live in drive 2 hours each way to/from work- so it might be a lot cheaper for him to just make the commute and have HIM have it suck for 3 months

In my area, 1 hour is normal.  Why not rent an apartment 1/2 way and you both can make the drive so you see each other each night.

omalley

Goldie_Locks_5:

forgot to mention- many people in the area I live in drive 2 hours each way to/from work- so it might be a lot cheaper for him to just make the commute and have HIM have it suck for 3 months

I see this too.  I have many friends that live in the Philly suburbs and commute to NYC every day (at least 2 hours each way)  It is very tough on them but since your situation is a 3 month period then it is definitely a possibility. He could get a hotel room one night per week to ease his commute. 

 

meshell782

my husband has traveled a lot since out daugther was born and it is do able.  of course now we decided for our family esp. now he needs to be home more and travel less.  you can do it esp. since there is an end.  i won't lie it is hard.  but i do agree with pp it may be hard to sell your house.  but if it is best for you family and gives you a better quality of life then why not.