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Parenting after 35
would this upset you?
My friend is an at home DCP. She is also a mom to two kids under 3. We were chatting on the phone yesterday and she mentioned that one of her kids (not her own) wouldn't nap so she put him in a PnP and let him cry. For. an. HOUR! 
With no intermittent checks, which Ferber recommends. I'm not sure how old this child is, I know at least 6 months because she doesn't take kids younger than that but younger than 2 because all of her clients are under 2. I'm not trying to stir up a CIO debate, I'm just curious if you'd be upset if your DCP did this. Personally, I would be (our family does not do CIO - I know it works for some families and that's fine by us, it just is not the approach we chose). To be fair to her, I don't know if she had discussed this w/his parents or not. I was too shocked to ask.
With no intermittent checks, which Ferber recommends. I'm not sure how old this child is, I know at least 6 months because she doesn't take kids younger than that but younger than 2 because all of her clients are under 2. I'm not trying to stir up a CIO debate, I'm just curious if you'd be upset if your DCP did this. Personally, I would be (our family does not do CIO - I know it works for some families and that's fine by us, it just is not the approach we chose). To be fair to her, I don't know if she had discussed this w/his parents or not. I was too shocked to ask.
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Re: would this upset you?
Heck yeah I would be upset!
We do let Logan CIO, BUT have found that as long as we lay him down when he really is ready for a nap/bed he doesn't cry anymore than 5 min - 10 min tops. If it's anymore than than we get him up because it's clear he needs something more.
ETA: The "crying" is definitely more of a fussiness during that time.
Holy poop!
YEAH, I'd be upset!
Letting them CIO for that long without checking on them is child abuse in my opinion. If a kid is crying for that long straight, especially one that young, there is usually a serious reason. If she'd checked on him repeatedly and tried various methods to soothe him and nothing worked, that would be different. But to admit she just let him cry for that long and never checked on him is horrible. If it were my kid, I'd pull him out of her care and possibly report her.
She reminds me of the woman who watched my sister when she was little. A woman who thought it was okay to bite someone else's kid because they bit hers.
That's kind of what I thought - if the child is crying THAT long, there is something wrong!!! Its so interesting to me how having children can make you see giant differences between yourself and a friend that you never noticed before. Needless to say, our parenting styles could not be more different and I will NOT be leaving DD with her. Ever.
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I would love to give her the benefit of the doubt and say she discussed it with the child's parents however I would never knowingly allow that to happen for my child.