Babies on the Brain
Daycare just called
Ry has a fever of at least 101.6 (she was squirming so much they could not get a good read). Her nose has been running for the past few days and today her eye was all goopy but she did not have any fever this morning. Poor baby! And I hate it because I cannot leave work today and neither can DH so luckily his mom is able to go pick her up. Hoping it is allergies and teething and not another ear infection!!
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Re: Daycare just called
Ryleigh has terrible allergies and asthma and blocked tear ducts so all the symptoms she was showing this morning are pretty typical. Since I did take her temp this morning to be sure and it was normal I figured it was just allergies.
I was thinking the same thing. She has eye goo. That could be pink eye. I don't understand why parents do this. If you felt like crap and had stuff coming out of your eye would you go to work?
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As I stated in my above response, she has blocked tear ducts so she gets eye goo pretty often and that is one of the reasons we are seeing the specialist on Thursday for her eyes.
I don't understand why the assumption is that would be doing the wrong thing for my child....but whatever.
This too. What if there was no other family around? What then?
Me either.
Yeah this is the part I questioned immediately..
Really? That's pretty awesome. Must be all that granola.
Wow I did not realize I needed to carefully check my post before I submitted and made sure I explained fully every single thing. I work in HR management and am generally able to leave any time needed. However I feel like I should not leave today because I had been out working from home during my mom's heart troubles and procedures, was on PTO Friday and a half-day yesterday, and have to leave early tomorrow and Thursday for my doctor's appointment and Ry's appointment with the specialist. In the interest of my job security, I thought it best that I check to see if grandma can pick her up instead of me today.
I don't know what we would do if this situation came up and no parents were available because they live 2 miles from us and are available when needed.
My DS had pink eye and needed to stay home yesterday (until he had the drops for 24 hours, then he was allowed to go back to DC).
I was really needed at work yesterday because we're doing our provincial testing. It's a big no-no to call in a supply teacher to take over your class at this time.
I took the day off.
Family first.
Always.
for realzies. My state doesn't give twoshitz.
Well, with this information I'd say it sounds a little like you were whining. Yes, if you have another alternative and there are reasons you think it would be better for you to stay at work, that's a reasonable solution. Saying you "can't leave work" is begging for attention. I think you just got a different kind then you were hoping for.
And I am out---I had already been thinking of quitting the bump because I feel that I really don't have time to keep up anymore but after today I know it is the right decision. I have gotten in heated arguments and taken flames before but I really feel criticized for no reason today. It makes me very upset already when I am stuck at work and can't be with my baby and then to be made to feel like a terrible mom by people who don't even have a clue just does not make sense to me. I know I am a great mom to Ryleigh. I do not have to defend myself or my decisions to anyone and I am just not going to do it anymore. Not worth it at all.
So to all of you TTC, I wish you the absolute best of luck and happy babies and smooth deliveries to all the PG ladies. Take care everyone else.
Agreed 100%. Dh didn't care one time if he was at work for over 3 weeks when I was sick in the fall. He worked from home everyday of it. If they wanted to let him go, so be it. Allie came first. He knew I couldn't take care of her and I needed help just going to the bathroom. He would leave right now, if I called and said I was sick and couldn't care for Allie. He is the only one in his dept and he is taking vacation next week and the next.
Awesome another GBCB. I wonder how long before you come back
You left out critical information. We didn't all take it the same way out of coincidence. And this was hardly a flaming
ETA if you saw this post written by someone else, do you think you would have no questions?
Well, I personally didn't have much a problem with this post as I read all of your explanation posts. I think you are taking the concern and criticism a bit harshly with the whole GBCB thing, but to each his own. If you have felt pushed away and have a lot of things going on in your life, maybe its best for you to go. GL.
I'm sorry guys but you're all being really judgie right now.
I'm sure that if Grandma wasn't around Ash or her DH would be there to pick up Ry asap.
And I imagine it would be really tough for her to take care of her baby to the best of her ability if she suddenly had no income because she was fired.
Could she have chosen better phrasing for her OP, sure. But she didn't. And she explained herself.
Get off your high horses people. She's doing the best she can to raise her child, not your child.
Ash, I really hope Ry feels better soon.
I'm not saying I agree or disagree but IN ash's defense... those symtoms can be allegies. clogged tear ducts are not pretty and are chronic. It is easy to distinguish from pink eye. I've seen kids have to get surgery because they were so severe. Also Allergies can cause a low grade fever not usually that high.
It's sad and I encounter it a lot. Some bosses are Aholes and don't let people leave to pick up their sick kids, which totally sucks. The job market is really sucky right now. I'm sure Ash would have much rather of stayed home as many of the parents I deal with would like to but like she said, she didn't have a choice. I would personally tell my boss top piss off, but I know many people can't afford to be fired. I'm glad someone was able to pick her up and I hope she feels better soon.
You took the words out of my mouth. After reading all of the follow-up posts, I don't see any issues what what Ash was doing.
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I completely agree.
Agreed. 100%
A. I completely understand why Ash thought her daughter had allergies or other problems given the other conditions she mentioned just this week. And she did say she did not have a fever this morning. I would have sent her in too.
B. Since when is not leaving work for your child when a grandparent can easily and temporarily handle the situation being irresponsible? I have a job that doesn't always allow me time off when I need. But I'd rather have a job to pay the bills than piss off my boss when I don't need to.
I agree.
This. I don't think she needs to explain every detail of her life choices. She simply was saying her baby is sick and maybe she was being an AW and looking for some attention and well wishes but either way I don't think this is an example of bad parenting or poor family values.
She also clearly stated that her baby had clogged tear ducts and suffers from allergies. The symptoms she described can all be allergy related.
No kidding. Sheesh. A little harsh, perhaps?! DD has terrible allergies, and at times lately has a runny nose, goopy eyes, and hives all over her body. So I can totally see where, if the OP took her temp and there wasn't one, she would assume it's allergies. DH also has a job where it is impossible for him to leave (or even for me to get ahold of him) 98% of the time. That's one of the reasons it helps for me to be a SAHM, b/c he wouldn't be able to stay home, leave work, etc. Esp. not in this economy. FFS people, relax and put your judging shoes away for the day.
You say asking questions, some would say needlessly drilling. But whatever makes you feel good.
There is also quite a bit of backpedaling on a lot of different levels.