Baby shower drama

uagirl

As if I haven't been stressed enough lately, now I get to deal with baby shower drama from both sides of my family.

1.)  SILs are throwing me a shower and including my mom's family since there are only 2 women there.  SIL asked me for a list of people I wanted to invite so she could send invitations.  After my mom got her invitation, she called me and said she felt terrible, but she forgot to ask me to invite her neighbor, who has known me since I was 4.  I mentioned it to MIL, who said she didn't know if SIL had any invites left since MIL had given out several to her coworkers.  Coworkers that I don't know well enough to even tell you their name.  In her words she invited them "because they are so happy I'm having another grandchild."  DH and I both find it a bit strange, since we only really know one of these ladies since she and MIL  are friends outside of work.  I'm kinda quiet and shy, and I know I'm going to fee awkward around these people since I don't know them. 

2.)   My dad's family was also invited to the shower above, but are boycotting because I refuse to drive 3 hours to Holly Pond at 38 weeks pregnant so they can throw their own shower. They told my dad they aren't RSVP'ing, they just aren't showing up.  They've made my dad and step mom so miserable about it that my step mom is now planning a shower for my dad's family at their house (only 20 minutes away) at 37 weeks.

 Now instead of looking forward to my showers, I'm dreading them.  One has a bunch of people I don't know, and they other has a bunch of pissed off relatives.  Can I send DH in my place?

crollin

I'm sorry they are putting you through this.  This is suppose to be a happy time for the you.  Mine is not really drama but I have my first shower this weekend where DH grew up.  2 of his best friends & their wifes are throwing us a couples shower.  The shower starts at 2.  I told DH last week and he was like " what were they thinking?  Don't they know it's going to be hot as H*** at 2."  LOL, I have to agree with him.  We are having a fish cook out so most everyone will be outside.  I just go with the flow but DH is a little bit more vocal than I am on stuff. 

star21gazer

I'm sorry they are putting you through this.  I think sometimes people forget that this is about you and the baby and they make it about themselves! 

hamillm

I'm so sorry...wishing you the best!

loyo03

I am so sorry that you are going through this. As far as the neighbor goes, invite her. If both you and your mom received an invite, you could give her one of those or just tell her that she is invited. MIL invited a ton of people that I didn't know to a "Sip N See" after DD was born. At first, I kind of felt like you, but it didn't end up being that terrible. They mainly talked to MIL and each other...and we racked up on some nice things from them.

As far as your dads side of the family--you CANT travel that far from the hospital that far along b/c you could have the baby at any time. Tell them that it is drs orders but you would love for them to come to the one closer to home.

kc0721

I'm sorry that you're having to deal with all of this. 

I had a few folks at my shower that I didn't know and it wasn't that bad.  Honestly, things went by so fast that I barely had time to recognize I was there, LOL.  Plus like PP said, you might get some really good stuff from people. 

As for your dad's side of the family, I agree with you.  Traveling that far is out of the question.  I would mention them coming here to see you, however you going to see them isn't going to happen.  I might also remind them that this is your time and your shower and you would really appreciate them being there to share in this exciting moment.   

 

fallenangel20024

Sorry your going through this, but don't feel bad about not traveling all that way. If you went into labor, Holly Pond is out in the middle of nowhere! Just remember, these little bumps in the road are not worth worrying yourself over. You have more important things to be thinking about! You should kill them with kindness at the shower so they don't see it upset you. I find that's usually the best way to deal with those type of people.

jiffy-pop

OMG! I'm from Holly Pond! Sorry you're going thru this!