Sorry to be a PW but...

MrsBlayne

This nanny thing is stressing me out some. Here is the exact text I got today... " I dont think i can keep watching Briley. She wont eat for me and she has been crying for the last 45 min. I have tried everything to console her but its not working. I love watching her but i dont know what else to do for her. I dont want u to be upset with me. Im sry". I, of course, freak out and call a lady who runs an in home daycare that my friend sends her baby to. I love the arrangement of having her come to our house but I was thinking maybe it wasn't meant to be. I am going there to check it out weds. Then later I get a text that she is doing better and took 1 oz from her bottle. Then random stuff like can she make macaroni. When DH comes home she tells him that she is not quitting, she just freaked out because she was seriously screaming and she couldn't calm her down. He tells me he thinks she is fine and is cool with her still watching B, but I am not sure about it at this point. Oh ALSO... When I got the original measage, I asked if she wanted to bring her up to my work. She said she didn't have any gas. Eek. We told her we would pay her weekly in cash, she got paid last Thurs. DH gave her $40 today to buy gas. Um... Thoughts?

dani_girl08

I assume she is younger?  She sounds pretty immature.  I would be concerned with the fact that she is getting so frustrated with a crying baby.  Don't get me wrong, I know that it's frustrating to have a baby crying for 45 minutes, but to text you and say that she didn't know if she could do it wouldn't be a very big confidence builder for me.  Does she have a lot of experience nannying, or is this a new thing for her?  And, having to give her money for gas?  I would be pretty concerned about her responsibility.  I would also LOVE to have someone come to the house to watch the baby--I'm sure it's very convenient, and it's definitely nice that B can be at her own home during the day, no germs, etc., but I think I might go meet the other lady & see how you feel about her.  Otherwise, a very long talk with the current nanny is definitely in order (which it sounds like you're already planning on if this relationship continues).  GL, I can only imagine how tough this is!!!

Eleise96

Honestly Blayne, I think I would take all of these things as a sign and find a new provider.  I am basing this decision on just reading things about her and obviously you know her, but something just doesn't seem right. 

IMO, a childcare provider shouldn't freak out about a baby that is crying for sustained amount of time.  They should have enough experience to know what to do in that situation.  They might not be able to get the baby to stop crying, but they shouldn't freak out and "quit" when it happens.  And, it annoys me that she sent you a text!  Grow up!

And, where the heck did the $40 go?!?!

BlondeBeachBride08

I agree with the PP's. She sounds really immature. I can't imagine contacting a parent during the work day outside of an emergency. Let alone saying I was going to quit because I was frustrated.

And seriously, if she has enough gas to get home from work, she has enough to get to a gas station and fill up to bring the baby to you. If she's spent all of her pay since thursday, that's probably also a problem...

Keep looking for a new person. 

AshNicole331

I agree with everyone. I'm sure she's a very nice person and means well. It just doesn't sound like she's the right person for the job.

dexspsandqs

You have doubts and are questioning the person caring for your child- this is NOT good.

Switch for your sanity and peace of mind.  Baby B and your family come first- don't feel guilty about it! 

MmeBP

I agree with PP's.  I just don't think this situation is the best one for your or B (and your sanity). 

lindeenwedding

I agree with PP as well. I don't think it sounds like she is cut out for the job.

Butterflie6381

From everything you posted, this person sounds immature and unqualified to handle an infant so young.  Personally, I wouldn't leave her with my child another day.  Find alternate care ASAP.

Ms.Beachbum08

AshNicole331:

I agree with everyone. I'm sure she's a very nice person and means well. It just doesn't sound like she's the right person for the job.

EXACTLY!